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lighter:
I just know you and I will both have nice men in our lives, Tupp.
Your phamily will have lovely men in it, and you've learned a lot about what you're looking for, and what you're not.
I certainly have enough experience to sort through, esp if I honor myself as priority.
Lets remain open to new wonderful things. Lets make room for them in our lives.
For me, that means I have to get rid of defensive postures, and assumptions about new people. I have to listen and watch without judgement... only with curiosity going forward.
I have to trust my instincts, and let them rule... never allowing them to be overruled. Not any more.
All will be well.
::nodding::.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on June 10, 2018, 06:09:21 PM ---I just know you and I will both have nice men in our lives, Tupp.
Your phamily will have lovely men in it, and you've learned a lot about what you're looking for, and what you're not.
I certainly have enough experience to sort through, esp if I honor myself as priority.
Lets remain open to new wonderful things. Lets make room for them in our lives.
For me, that means I have to get rid of defensive postures, and assumptions about new people. I have to listen and watch without judgement... only with curiosity going forward.
I have to trust my instincts, and let them rule... never allowing them to be overruled. Not any more.
All will be well.
::nodding::.
Lighter
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I think making yourself a priority is absolutely key, Lighter, and not needing to justify it or explain it, either. Mr Perfect may well be perfect but that doesn't mean we might not just want a weekend alone to do nothing much and just be by ourselves. A true Mr Perfect will understand, accept and have a busy enough life of his own to make the most of his own time without us there.
Something else I think is important is listening to that inner voice and understand it's okay to walk away and leave someone to their own particular brand of crazy and not to see it as a test or an opportunity to learn. What I think we can learn from those situations is that there are better things in life to put our energy into than coping with people who grate on us, whatever the reason may be xx
lighter:
Life without people grating on us, Tupp: )
At least to the exclusion of those we CAN exclude.
What a refreshing, lovely thought: )
That we can, and will, advocate for ourselves without feeling guilty, hesitating, or getting talked out of it.
Lighter
lighter:
A poem to end this thread...
"When you are a strong woman, you will
attract trouble. When a man feels
threatened, there is always trouble."
Barbara Taylor Bradford
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