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Hellidays: for the inner Grinch
sKePTiKal:
Make merry... hug lots of people. Holly & I are sharing a tummy bug and watching "The Newsroom" which is actually an endearing series, funny as all get out, and one remembers all the different places one has been over the years...
which is kinda part & parcel of this time of year.
HUGS FOR EVERYONE (minus the tummy bug)!!!!!
Hopalong:
Oh no!
The bah humbug bit you both!
But I'm glad you're cozy with goofy TV.
Just right.
Enjoy and get better quick!
love
Hops
Hopalong:
I'm missing everybody.
Tupp's on break and all of us (we few two?) are doing our holiday thing. Doc, time to open to new members again maybe? If you're up for it? Which I wouldn't blame you for if you're NOT?
Meee....okay but lonesome.
Bright spots: peaceful Xmas afternoon at friend's country home.
Hilarious stunning huge lap-collie who for some reason is nuts about me and every time I neglected to continue doting on her, would put her head on the opposite arm of the sofa and ... mutter. I swear she was muttering. Kind of a "well phooey on you too and who needs you but woowowgrumbleowoow...why aren't you still patting me" kind of extremely audible and expressive complaint. Made friend and me crack up out loud, laughing silly, more than once.
For me, worth it all!
And yesterday a joyous day hanging out with my poet pal and her kin-and-friends, including beyond-adorable grand-daughter, about 3, who's half Iranian, and so smart she has an IQ aura, I swear. I brought her a book called Dragons Really Love Tacos and accidentally we all (extended family I'm a welcome stray among) wound up in a trendy tacqueria, and the doggone kid actually put it together! The surprise of a book about dragons and tacos and here WE are, eating tacos!
So all is well. Getting through hellidays feels like a forced-march through cultural quicksand sometimes, and then there are those bright days, when it's just happy/lucky to be with people you love and are loved by.
In that, in those moments, my gratitude level busts the mercury.
Got a note from a long-lost cousin that one of my aunts (almost no contact) was caught in the Paradise, CA fire and barely got away, including 2nd degree burns. Woman's in her 90s. I was very glad to get her address (at her daughter's, elsewhere in CA) so I could write her, did that this morning.
Life is weird. End of year is mostly, for me, after the big event, a hopeful time.
Hope y'all are feeling good things too...and I love you.
xxoo
Hops
sKePTiKal:
I didn't post, 'coz I figured everyone was off doing Christmas stuff. Hol & I sat in a our jammies all day and Christmas Eve, she opened her presents - stinky spa stuff, and new mac for all her fabulous photos. It was VERY nice and we even had a fairly harmless facetime call with her sister & the boys.
What happens from now, for the next couple of weeks is going to look more like holidays. Several of her friends (whom I enjoy) are coming visit & stay.
They're a pretty close group of friends; Christmas Day she got word one of them committed suicide and it was one of her buddies who found him. Same DAY, she got a call from another friend who's lived the ordeal of being with an N wife, kids too... and finding himself the target for all sorts of personal, ego-destroying maliciousness. His plea was: he had to get out of the city. So, Hol picked him up at the train station... and between the two of us, we're doing what we can to let him tell his story... and start to think about; feel something hopeful... about moving on. We have been laughing about the absurdity involved in such an experience - a LOT. Not sure how long he'll be staying, but he needs space (like I've got) and time to just BE. And realize he's OK; it was a horrible time... but it's OK, that it's not OK.
The other friends coming out are very close long-time friends who'll assist in the nurturing and make lots of merry, too. And she is still seeing her lovely, practical, archetypal young man from online dating. We all got to meet his lab, Kabeeb a couple days ago. Took a little bit for Knuckles & Beeb to become buddies... but Beeb & I bonded almost immediately.
I'm tripping the light fantastic, dancing among all the new boundaries around my place... so far, no disasters. Imagine that! I've not mentioned this place to the shell-shocked friend; yet. But he's a lovely, sensitive, and totally traumatized (yet still able to laugh) guy. I think we can help.
But all this buzz around here, means I have to be more sensitive to my needs more than usual...not get too exhausted... and no, I'm not getting my sit, be quiet, & think time right now. We'll start tai chi, me & Hol, next week... and SOMEtime... we're taking a trip for fun, together (which is my Christmas present from her; my little Viking explorer).
This is not at all, what I was expecting to do over the holidays. But, just rolling with it... surfing the waves... and trying to spread some simple kindnesses around.
Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Hops,
"Doc, time to open to new members again maybe? If you're up for it? Which I wouldn't blame you for if you're NOT?"
I'll give it some thought and let you know soon.
Happy New Year to you and all long time posters and readers!
Richard
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