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sKePTiKal:
They don't share any space at all, Lighter. DD does visit; and the ex will also visit her at Buck's. But there have not been any overnights; no shared custody. Mom's lifestyle prohibits her from such things. But she inserts herself where ever she wants anyway; "no" notwithstanding.
He will sell house; and then give her the percentage agreed upon in the divorce decree. Of course, she'll have to be at the closing as she's on the deed. That's actually pretty common practice.
lighter:
I think Buck can arrange to NOT be at the closing if he chooses.
Or maybe sign his part of the deal ahead, and trust the Attorney to do what needs doing without B.
When that house is gone.... when that check's written to the ex..... what, beside their dd, ties them?
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Absolutely nothing will tie them then, Lighter. He's planning to put it on the market next spring.
It appears we're going to get a little rain from the coastal low that's moving up the Atlantic. Big smile on my face! We really need it. I only have a little bit of hand "prettying up" to do at the barn drainage I've been trying to finish for a year. Materials are continuing to arrive for the Hut today. Solar package came yesterday. Stored in barn. I hear today's trucks starting to come up the road already.
Hol & I are headed over the mountain today for errands and appointments.
The day time temps are dipping down; going to have one night in the 30s too. Hol & Matthew finished the wood at the house. They'll work to fill the racks at the garage too - but that will end up being "back up", and available for Hol to use too. Since it appears they are going to get the Hut closed in by the end of the year.
I've screwed up my tv/receiver system somehow. I don't know what I did... but I think it's the receiver that's the problem. Can't watch streaming tv or discs; I did get the CD player to work though. She's reading a new book, that she's going to share - "The Art of Empathy". Most of our conversation this "Matthew" trip was balancing empathy & boundaries. Hol wants to obsess on something and think it straight through, without let up. I don't have the stamina for that and much prefer to digest things at a slower pace. I think I get the book first; then Matthew. He's real aware that she's kinda "stuck" in something that she needs to work through too. He's been a good sounding board for me; and one thing I know he knows, is the big differences between Hol & me. Those are at the root of some of our disagreements - a difference in age and experience; and my continued work since therapy - without letting that become the only way I see the world.
ETA: it's like grand central station here on my road & driveway today. Contractors even got a tractor-trailer in here - a feat I have always considered impossible. Good thing we're not leaving till about noon.
lighter:
Just pray everyone stays safe, and don't sweat the small stuff, Amber.
Glad to hear Buck is OUT when the house sells.
Lighter
Hopalong:
I'm confused about who Matthew is and why he's in on intimate revelations
about your family relationships...but he must be a mature and trusted person for that to happen.
I wonder, do you feel the boundaries are okay there?
I'm just hunching over my laptop imagining insights...
BIG hugs to you. You've had a really hard couple months, emotionally, hon.
xxxooo
Hops
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