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Hopalong:
Lovely man, fascinating life!
Had a great time!

Many differences but maybe no core ones.
Mutual click on several levels. Gorgeous eyes
and smile. Humble sorta Maine background,
steely about values. Hmmm.

Really enjoyed meself! We talked our heads off.

More later, wine's gotta wear off.

Night and hugs,
Hops

PS  Know what he said after I confessed my cat allergy? "We'd work around it."
Purrrrrrr.....

lighter:
Yay YAy, Hops.

Lots to think about.  I'm so glad it went well and you had a good time.

How does he feel about doggies>

Lighter

Hopalong:
Dunno.
I'll ask if we get together again.
He sent me home with a 20-min video of his winter still photos...he spent years working for Canadian Pacific. They're really lovely. Has a cool soundtrack, too.

I'm just grateful to have had fun. Feet on brakes.

hugs
Hops

Hopalong:
Well, I'm pleased I dunnit a few last times (then let the subscription to the findageezer website lapse). Experiences were good and interesting.

Disentangled from Train Man, who was exotic and has had a fascinating life. But I think he's not a partner candidate (I specifically need to AVOID exotic rebels, I married two of them). I wrote him about my covid precautions and mentioned I wasn't sure we were on the same page, but what did he think....and he responded that he's not going to "live in a bubble" (which I hadn't suggested). I saw that he wouldn't change a single small practice for a couple hours to make me feel more comfortable, and given how much he travels and mingles, I realized we're not a good fit. But with him, the biggest reason is what my T reminded me to pay attention to: Does he ask you any questions about yourself and your own life? Nope. He just didn't. He's looking for someone to fill the gap in his life, but I'm not sure how capable he is of seeing her. Not his fault and I still like him, but don't think we'll see each other again. All okay. Very pleased I had the two-date adventure.

Another man is considerably older but fitter than Train Man, and I did like him. He's more conservative than I am (as are most humans) and likewise interesting. But he honestly explained that he had been connecting with another person from the website, and that might be developing into something, so he felt he didn't want to string me along. Loved this part: if things don't grow into something with her, he'll get back in touch and he and I can "start again". Made me laugh, that he was so transparently explaining I'd be a Plan B. Really didn't offend me a bit because that's the way life goes. (He was married for 55 years, so is not slick at all in how he communicates -- just straightfoward). I would enjoy seeing him again and appreciated his honesty. But chances are he's on his way to another nice connection that'll be right for him.

Maybe if (when) I get unbearably lonely this winter I'll revive the subscription and correspond with a man or two. I was just hearing from so many that didn't remotely suit or didn't seem to have read a word I said, just reacted to the photo. (Even after I added my current haggard post-pandemic pix!). I also should/could/might join the fancy-schmancy senior center, and make new friends in person.

hugs
Hops

Twoapenny:
I hope someone pops up in real life, Hops, I find the online stuff really difficult.  I did try it again after we moved here but, like you, I've mostly had messages from completely unsuitable men who've not read the profile and I think just contact literally any woman within a certain distance in the hope that one will say yes.  It's hard to sift through and then do the date thing (especially when they tell you you're option two - honesty is great but yeah, no-one likes to know they're someone else's Plan B!  I agree it's better than stringing you along though).  It's good you noticed train guy wasn't asking questions about you.  It's weird how many people do that.  I've only met one couple I don't like since we moved here and it's because they're like that - they just talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and there's no back and forth, it's so tiring.  If I see them I shoot off the other way :)

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