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lighter:
ACK bad Ts!  That is SO TRUE, Hops.

I think you should ask this T about her comment, when M's not listening.

Once a Doc was sending me messages, via her face, regarding youngest dd, and it drove me nuts till I told her I was overtly concerned about what those faces MIGHT MEAN.  She wasn't even aware she was doing that, and said she didn't mean to set off alarm bells.

Ask.  You might find yourself surprised by the answer.

Lighter

Hopalong:
I'm actually going to ask

Yup. That's my plan.

Hops

Hopalong:
Boy, do I have to keep a grip on my imagination (and my fears).

Called the T, explained to her that I'd liked her a lot, but one moment had troubled me: when there was some dialogue and I'd had a facial reaction to something M said and she said something to the effect of: I see a look on your face...snotty. I told her I was startled by it and it had stuck with me, and wondered if I'd misunderstood.

She remembered it clearly and said that right after her observation, I'd said: Sometimes I have an edge, and I want to work on that. (True.) She also apologized for using an offensive descriptor, and said it was her challenge -- she uses the wrong word sometimes because English isn't her first language. (She's from Switzerland, grew up with German and French and Italian).

I found all that a fair and transparent explanation, accepted her apology, and feel better. It's hard for me to trust, and there's nobody more important to trust than a T. But I think her explanation was honest and reasonable. So if after we interview one or two others, M prefers her, I could work with her too. Maybe a shred of worry (paranoia?) that she might dislike me, but I don't think it's true.

Our next T-interview is with a Sikh, male. M is pleased that we can have any choice from a different culture. I think me going along with that, if I feel comfortable with that potential-T, is a good idea. Because some of the tensions between us are about cultural differences, as well as our histories.

So there it is. A word. Dealt with. I could parse everything all day long but that'd take me away from obsessing over the news!

hugs
Hops

lighter:
I wonder if you'll like the Sikh T, Hops.

You have equal input in the selection. or something close?

Lighter

Hopalong:
Probably will like him. The Skih faith has scripted complete equality for men and women for a verrrrrrry long time. My friend, a local public servant until he retired, is Sikh. A lovely, radiant human being. Ailing now, sadly.

And of course. M and I will decide together. Never crossed my mind that would mean anything other than equal input; he's never expressed anything different, either.

Hops

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