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Hopalong:
Hmmm. I'm thinking just friendship, genuinely. Nothing "lesser" about that. He didn't ask a lot of questions about me but the talk flowed. I was a fascinated listener. Told him enough about myself. He didn't register much reaction but I do think there's a general hurt/possible resentment about women. Not curious.

I don't see him as someone I would build a real partnership with. Nothing wrong with him and many admirables, but there's not enough in common and he does live as he lives. He's got no resources other than a building filled with prize wood. He does have family and they're urging him to build himself an actual home, but he can't afford to. He used an outhouse for the last 17 years. I'm flexible but too bougie to go quite that frontier.

We both said to each other we were looking for new friends and I'm not sniffing for a romance possibility here. Would be happy to spend time with him again, and already wrote him about my not-on-same-page-re.-masks observation. No judgement, just explained I'm hyper-cautious so am being guided for now by the damn delta. I'll see how he responds. For me for now, no fantasizing or impulse to. It was just a nice and rewarding adventure to meet and talk for two hours.

THIS is the one (gonna plonk it on Tupp's thread too)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtFwEofmNrg

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Hops

Hopalong:
OMG, now I'm torn between Justin and Ronnie. Obsessed.

This is pure hilarity.
Finding belly laughs in the middle of How the World is Going is priceless!!!

Enjoy:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isemHch23Ac

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Hops

Hopalong:
Couple friendly dates. Wounded bird but beautifully self-aware man (he's done loads of therapy for years), woodworker. Met him once near where he lives, invited him to patio-sit for a brew a couple nights ago.

Enjoyed talking to him for two hours each time and he's going to be a good friend, I can tell. This counts a lot.

Upcoming maybe-date with an attractive man I'd responded to saying, I'm honestly intimidated by your fitness stuff since I've gained 20 lbs since my pic...no harm at all in changing your mind! He responded: actually, I can't run marathons any more due to an arthritic knee and I responded because your eyes sparkle when you smile and I'd still like to meet you. !!!!!  That was nice.

On it goes, slowly and at whatever pace appears and feels right.

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Hops

lighter:
Nice, Hops.  Sounds really positive on both counts....woodworker and ex marathon runner.

Lighter

Hopalong:
Well, very very odd that it's happening but it continues. Woodworker already feels like a friend, so I'm glad about that. After all the quarantining and such is past I'll go visit his shop sometime. Not in a rush though because he lives in a rural, mask-resistant area. He's talked about it and I think has difficulty asserting it for people who come in his shop. (I encouraged him to put up a sign but I think he'd find that difficult. It's such a shame.) Anyway, I do hope he stays well so we can get to know each other more.

Today meeting for coffee a man who lives downtown near me and intrigues me for two reasons: 1) he's Scottish (can't help it, Tupp, like every ditsy Anglophile I do love the U.K. accents!) and 2) he's been a widower for 5 years after a 45-year marriage. #1 is just silly but #2 often means: this person is unafraid of commitment and has learned something about life via relationship. Not always true of course but maybe a better bet than someone with a divorce or two (like me). He also seems to have a sense of humor which would be VERY refreshing.

Couple days from now meeting someone who's also local, friendly but not pushy. His profile indicated a lot of athleticism and marathon running and I honestly thought he was out of my league -- told him why too. Did I tell y'all the thing about the photos? I added a few current ones and mentioned I feel self-conscious about my pandemic weight, and he responded he'd been interested because my eyes sparkle when I smiled (and he can't run marathons anyway any more due to an arthritic knee.) I thought his attitude was kind and ressuring.

That's it...no (well other than the Scot) fantasies but will try to the enjoy the reality of coffee with strangers, and I usually do!

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Hops

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