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Hopalong:
Breaaaaaaaaaaaaaathe, G.
Please call someone to confirm whether or not showing up at the orientation tomorrow counts for or against you somehow.

Hate to say it, but even if they made a mistake it might be better to turn up.

You ARE finding your way.
You ARE doing what's needed.
You ARE going to find training that will help you.

And best of all...
You ARE NOT going to spend your life in a call center!

Please push walls, breathe, drink chamomile, sing, hum, draw, do whatever it takes to reconnect yourself. You are part of this human community. You are going through a tough time and some anxiety like millions of people do.

There is nothing wrong with you. It's just hard.

You can do difficult.

Difficult gets you to calm and peace.

Don't sabotage yourself. Be on your own side. Be your own calming friend.

YOU CAN DO THIS.

Hugs
Hops

sKePTiKal:
G - higher ed is my home turf.

I think, if you approach this with the attitude that you are the customer - and that your tuition dollars CAN go elsewhere, if you're not treated respectfully, as an adult, and that you don't need to be unduly confused by "campus speak"... you'll start to get results you want. It pays to be a tad bit assertive with a lot of the admin types - especially those "advising".

My experience is they'll bombard you with "possibilities" - but they have absolutely no concrete idea about how to make possibilities a reality. There's a reason those of us who USED to be in HEd consider it to be a racket. That said, you really can figure out the real info from the fluffy BS; the sales pitches.

AND get what you want.

First, find out exactly which credits will transfer. Then, find out which of the interesting or available programs will accept those credits. See how long each one keeps you a student, instead of a job seeker. ASK about potential job opportunities WHILE a student, too. I dealt primarily with adult students; you can ask me anything or run it past me. Most adults don't need or want the little self-esteem pep talks some of these people use to manipulate potential tuition dollars. And trust me, at the end of the day - that's all you are to them. (Cynical, I know. But I saw it all the time.)

It is possible to use their racket to further yourself and your goals; we just have to get you into a seat somewhere... in some program... while you start to familiarize yourself with this strange world. I'll help anyway you need me to. You can EASILY transfer to another program or school after you have a semester under your belt. This one school isn't your only option. But I think you need to just get enrolled for a single semester; 3 classes MAX. There are lots of things that have changed about school. But I think you'll find it easy, once you have a grasp of the admin vocabulary (jargon abounds) and start to see first-hand how it works these days.

Meh:
The picnic turned out better than expected, everybody was happy to get out of the house and see each other. my fear of people being cranky for lack of food didn't happen someone even brought a plastic tablecloth. Breaks from the rut. The orientation made it sound like our training options might be more open than I expected. Still there are a lot of hoops. Will write more when on my computer.

 Thank u Skep & Hops 

Tired. Another day tomorrow of advising at a school.

What is strange is that during this class today they were throwing out the names of university higher level schools not just community colleges. I'm cautious but it was interesting.

Again I need to have a plan. What if in the end the HARD part is ME figuring out WHAT to do.

DO I pick something close by. Do I move. It's hard to think about moving right now, I don't want to add that stress on me.

Truth I don't know what I want to do anymore. Maybe there are lots of right choices. It's not like there is only one right path.

sKePTiKal:
G - I think it's less about finding the "right" choice from the get-go, and more about exploration and discovery. Trying things on for fit, size, and how it looks and feels on you. Experimenting. There is no harm done, by trying something and deciding later on you detest it. Educational environments are pretty forgiving that way and I think are designed to minimize what we generally categorize as "failure". An academic or skills path is going to have a lot of intersections and forks in the road. You can't possibly KNOW ahead of time, which one is going to call you, tempting you to try something you hadn't considered where you sit right now. You don't know, what you don't know.

Fortunately, higher ed - in all it's flavors - is flexible enough to adapt to the path you choose AS YOU GET TO THOSE decisions. No one, in reality, that I know of, has laid out a plan or route from the beginning to end and followed it religiously without feeling trapped at the end.

That might be a little scary or stressful, so I suggest you only plan one or two semesters out at a time. That gives you time to acclimate to the environment, how it works, and learn about all those options - at your own speed. Otherwise you're setting yourself up for a task that's so overwhelming and impossible, it may seem easier to just not bother with it. Even when your brain knows that adding skills and knowledge will help you in a practical fashion and might even be fun.

OH... and when you do change your mind, that's why there's an add/drop period for classes. It's usually only a couple weeks though, so pay attention to the academic calendar. It's completely up to you what decisions you make about your path and which things to pursue. Yes, certificate and degree programs have a set of requirements; a basic knowledge and skillset to get "certified" in. But you'll find, talking to program directors and department heads... that there IS flexibility in that list of courses, to a relative degree. Electives, minor areas of study, all of that allows you to customize the learning path for yourself.

Meh:
Skep, with this Federal program they would pay tuition fees but they don't allow any changes of major/ training plan. I would have to pick something and finish it unless. Exploring would be fun but they won't pay for it. But you're right with class choices there might be some room for customizing it. I want to get through the program and I've been out of school for a long time so I definitely want to pick something that's going to be challenging but not impossible.

COFFEE!! Having some coffee.

LOL it looks like I could get an on-line degree in psychology. I used to work in research but I sorta left that behind. Hum. I better take a shower and get going.

Tired, wanna go back to sleep.   Holy cowlick I am so very very glad I got glasses even though I doubted I would use them.When my eyesight is starting to go blurry at night they actually do work.

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