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lighter:
I laminated a trail closing sign and got it up on Tuesday. The trail closes Monday. There are many offers of help and funds.
The plastic grate system holding the gravel has popped up in some places allowing gravel to slip under it. If I pick up that 2x2 foot piece, the two adjoining pop up too and it's a PITA to remedy.
When I put the track down I was hurrying to finish for company.....should have dug higher spots down. There are 2 or 3 high spots with resulting bald patches at highest points. Neighbors think I'll be dumping more gravel. I think that won't fix it.
I have a crate of huge stones I want to replace old stepping stones with. I'm trying to come up with a plan with more balance...
I get a chunk of difficult work done, path fixed, more peace for Pug and the neighbors have their cut through. I have less anxiety around it since fear of legally losing control drops with yearly closings for maintenance.
Combination of blocking Pugs long view, training her to bark, but stop on command, and asking neighbors to walk on other side of Hemlocks when it's not raining....which feels like my neighbor's yard, but is still part of this lot, might be a 1st phase compromise. If things don't get better I can change things up. I have enough stones to make 2 new paths in moss....really love the big stones in moss, and also a little stone area at back stairs.
Less weeding if moss to weed is a good thing. I can use the moss I take up to patch the yellow spots in back. Bear pee? Not sure, but they need attention.
I want to be home for a while even if I'm uncomfortable being a General giving orders on yard projects with neighbors closer to the house than ever for a short time. Timeframe gets shorter if I have a plan and set firm workdays beginning Monday. Maybe can be done in a couple weeks.
Time to clean outdoor shower and figure out privacy solution there. The doors have metal bars, but decorative. I usually hang my towel over the space, but can improve.
I watched the sun come up over the lake with my morning coffee. Ghee and some chocolate Stevia liquid I found at grocery store. The morning chorus is nice. Almost chilly, but not.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Well done, Lighter, it must feel good to have that plan underway and for everyone to know what's happening. Also so nice that you've had offers of help, even if they're not needed (or not needed from certain people, anyway). Hopefully it will bring you some peace just to have it closed off for a while. It's good that you have different options of what to do next and other things you can try if first ideas don't work out. Coffee by the lake sounds lovely :) We had rain first thing and when I went out to feed the birds there was that lovely earth smell you get after it rains, along with the apple blossom scent from the tree outside the house. The blossoms fall every time a bird lands on a branch so it looks like there's confetti over the path at the moment. It's really pretty.
lighter:
I love the thought if you feeding the birds under blossoming trees, Tupp. The rain makes me happy.
Lighter
lighter:
I wish I'd spent more time working in the yard before heat and bugs of summer, but hey....the renovation came first.
There's debris all over the moss... I need to blow it when things are damp.
I've decided to ask 2 of my neighbors, yes, both married, for help. Their wives volunteered them....both wives wear the pants. I deserve support and help too. I'm asking, bc I provide the trail they all enjoy. It's OK for me to ask for help that's being offered. It's OKfor me to accept help. This is hard for me..... I realize I'm not used to asking for help. I'm working on it.... it IS complex, IME.
When it;s time to open the trail back up , I'll likely allow just the people who helped. I don't have to allow everyone who likes using it. This break has forced them to find another way to the trails.... I hope they'll continue using it.
YG can go through the Cowboy's yard..... he doesn't have to go through mine, even though he has. I haven't seen him once in a couple weeks. I hope we can be super distanced BUT somewhat normal when we see each other again. IT IS HIS stuff. Nothing to do with me.
I'm full of energy today. Happy to plan things in yard. Will send e mails to husbands and wives..... looking forward to getting bigger projects done! Woo hoo.
Lighter
Meh:
I'd like to find a neighbor and see if they need help in the yard but they may think I'm nutso. Yard work is a really good physical focus and mind clearing activity for some people while others think it is a chore.
I read your story about the yelling guy (YG). He needs personal divorce counseling! Lots of guys are weird in how they can convince themselves that women are attracted to them when there is no attraction. Sometimes it's nice having guy friends but it often is taken the wrong way by guys.
You don't have to be overly tactful with him if you don't want to be. Hopefully he will get the idea. If you had to put your hand up and say STOP and he didn't register that then it is his problem.
You've sure got an active neighborhood. :)
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