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Twoapenny:
((((((Lighter))))))))))
I think time's the only thing that makes a situation like this ease off a little. A new kind of normal settles in, meaning routines start to become a thing again, and we can get out of the constant thinking and problem solving that's needed to get through the practical problems. Until then, I think it's very hard to get enough head space to be able to get in front of terrible, unwanted images, and feeling other people's pain and suffering. I think the lack of time to adjust is such a big problem in these situations. A terrible thing happens, but there's no time to process that because everyone has to deal with no power, no water, food shortages, no place to stay, and all those other bare essentials that are absent. And when it's so many people as well - one person suffering a disaster can lean on others, but when everyone's in the same boat - it's so very hard.
I think definitely avoiding the 'oh the tree fell down' people is a good step, though, it's always odd to me that people don't just say, "we were fine" in situations like this.
I hope as things settle around you the images will come less frequently, and that will make it possible to manage them until they're not there any more. Horrible. horrible situation. I'm hoping the Florida situation isn't as bad xx
sKePTiKal:
Well Lighter, I can offer a close to first hand replacement for some of those images. I'm on a board with some smart social media refugees (as in - we avoid the oversharing, exaggerate everything crap). Last night, one of our friends alerted us that he and a local friend are taking an 18 wheeler & pickup & trailer load of donations to WNC on the weekend of the 21st. Their church is collecting a lot of the usual stuff.
I volunteered a bit of unusual "relief" info I'd picked up, that those solar charged batteries - go by brands like Jackery, Bluetti, Ecoflow, etc - provide a good backup power source for people who need oxygen generators, cpaps, and to even in some cases power electric appliances. He asked if I was volunteering to donate. LOL. So money where mouth is, as soon as we can sort out the transfer tech. These CAN run inside and are very quiet.
Also, pics of the studio in the not too distant future. My cabinets are coming this weekend. I can FINALLY put stuff away!! Hol contributed a punched tin swag lamp for the bar... it's a chef's kiss & even dimmable. She kept it after it didn't work in her dining area.
Calling for frost tonite; both Hol & I have to get the last of the things into the ground or lose them.
lighter:
I walked out of the house early ....earlier than I usually walk the pug. I saw the neighbor, sans his calm, physically unstable elderly wolf dog.....walking towards me....from the wrong direction, and I knew ....his dog had crossed the rainbow bridge.
He was crying before he got to me and I unhooked the pug and sent her to comfort him with her little chubby little rolls.
Then we cried and I won't recount details.....just that a hawk landed over us, young squirrel in fist, fighting and crying like mad. It took our attention.
The pug barked and startled the hawk into releasing the squirrel. It was wounded ...front left paw, it stayed at eye level, crying, trying to figure out how to escape the hawk and navigate the world in pain....on 3 paws.
As I write this, chainsaws run all around me....trees dropping. Competing, it seems. The crew cutting down 3 huge trees leaning over my house has l started back up after a quick meal......the boss walked up as wolf dad and I were looking at the squirrel.....before I saw the poor paw. He doesn't know the squirrel is wounded.
It's weird.....flying by the seat of my pants,weighing work to be done, gaging risk, and jumping..... deciding between all the tree guys working nearby, giving quotes on the fly, usually coming in waaaay to high, but not today. This guy hit me just right, licenced and insured.
I have DD22 and her friend traveling to the lake with me.....after tree work finishes. We'll take the pug and Chinese food.....
Oh oh! Today, after starting back on the Heart Saver Plus, I 've been myself again. No dizzies AT ALL. This is twice that product seemed to make all the difference in the world. Not swearing ...just stating facts.
The tree guys have one huge tree to go. It's just 2:10..... they're fast and work with laughter ....smiles. Competent and quick. I stopped worrying they'd hurt themselves in the first 30 minutes.
Will get the roof and gutters checked out next. Got DD's car serviced today ....we sat in the breezy sunshine and chatted....caught each other up. I want to stop trauma dumping on them. I do try. They know this and love me despite our routine.....
another huge tree part landed behind us. They didn't need to know about the wolf or the squirrel. Not really.
The leaves are for next week. I worked in the yard a couple hours, but today's been scattered. Have the let it go for now.
Not editing this post ...have to run. Lots of energy. Following my list. Feeling ok.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Oh no, the dog has passed away? I saw the other post before this one, that's so sad. Poor chap. Poor squirrel as well.
I think 'immediate problem solving' is as much as anyone can do. Deal with this problem, deal with the next one, avert the next one because there was a tiny bit of breathing space and it meant being able to get half a step ahead. So so so difficult. Glad the tree guy quote was a good one. Heart Saver Plus, is it a supplement? Whatever it is, I'm glad it's doing some good xx
sKePTiKal:
Absolutely any damaged trees need to come down Lighter. I don't like doing it either; love my trees. But we lost all our ash trees (blight) and now the oaks are having issues. So taking out the damaged ones allows new seedlings to have the sun to make it like it used to be.
Last spring it was so dry here, we had wildfires around us. B and I have already decided how much room we want to cut back for a fire break. It's a necessary thing. Hol wants a pump & firehose for her place - I have a pond too - but both those ponds lose a good bit of water when it's that dry.
It's been windier here lately. Enough so we haven't been able to burn cardboard. Depending on what winter brings us, a strong wind can break damaged trees or throw branches in your buildings. Maybe today. Not much of a breeze and a strong chance of rain later. I need the space in the garage!
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