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Reciprocal Relationships with Others and Ourselves
lighter:
Ok, Tupp. That was an experiment.
Now, see if feeling wonderful and happy gets people's attention too. I found it was truly magnetic.
Glad you had a good time. Observer mode is better.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
This sounds like a useful experiment Tupp! I hope you have some fun with it.
Twoapenny:
Hops, it's not completely shaved at the moment - about an inch long on top and shaved at the back and sides. But will probably be coming off again this week :)
I have carried on making an effort - I've only got one dress and one skirt so not that easy to be girlier every day lol, but son is at college tomorrow so I'm going to pop to the charity shops and see if I can pick up a few bits. But it definitely does seem to make other people friendlier and chattier and I'm not sure if it's me giving off a different vibe or them seeing me differently. I don't feel different but perhaps I'm giving off something else without realising it.
In other news - I finally got a bed :) I had to get rid of mine when we moved because the room's so small it wouldn't fit in and I've been on a fold up bed since then. But a new bed was delivered today, it's set up with fresh bedding and I got new pillows and duvet as well and I have to say I can't wait to get in it! Will be interesting to see if I sleep any better now.
Today has been great. Completely without stress or hassle, we've been home all day, I've pottered about getting on with jobs that needed doing, cleared my bedroom out and gave it a good clean before the new bed arrived and I've put the fold up bed up for sale online. The whole place is starting to feel more organised and I can see better now what I can change and re-arrange to make it work better, plus I'm clearing out and rehoming things as necessary. Everything feels easier at the moment and I'm hoping it will stay that way :) xx
Twoapenny:
Well guys, great news! Today has been amazing :)
New bed is incredible - my alarm woke me at 7am this morning which is the latest I've slept since we moved here. Sooooo comfortable (the cat thinks so, too). My back is nowhere near as sore as usual and I was so comfy I would have gone back to sleep if I hadn't had to get up :)
Bought a dress and a couple of nice tops in the charity shop, very cheap, pretty and summery. Even looked at heels and hats - didn't buy any but thought maybe a bit further down the line might go for hats to ring the changes as I don't have much hair and might even venture into wearing heels every now and again (not sure if I could walk in them now but might have a go).
The nice mum group - apart from being so nice and welcoming they are setting up formally as a charity and have ideas for various ways to help and support local families. All very informal, low key and non-snobby. Without meaning to sound unkind or ungrateful, I've found in the past that some of the people that run groups aren't always very nice to low income families or if there's a family with a relative in prison or something like that. This group is very different, very down to earth and understand that life is tough and we deal with it as best we can. Really like them.
They've asked me to be more involved and we had a team meeting today, at which I offered to be Secretary (they need three roles filled to satisfy the Charity Commission requirements). I explained that I've never done it before but was happy to have a go; one of the guys who's helping ot set it up has worked for charities for years so knows how everything works so is going to talk me through the process and I can send stuff to him to check before it's sent out. Very excited and it's so nice to be part of a group for a change, instead of ploughing through things on my own. They've offered to send me on a Safeguarding course, as well as a First Aid one so I've said yes to both. I'm trying to take opportunities as they come now. I've been scared for years about sticking my head out anywhere in case my mum causes problems but I need to move forward so I've said yes. I have explained to the lady running the group about my mum just in case the many false allegations in my past might cause a problem, or if my mum gets wind that I'm involved and starts phoning social services again, but the lady was fine with it, said various members have got various problems in their background and it's all good. And it is all good :)
So a nice day, finally! I don't feel as tired, stressed, run down or demoralised. Son had a nice day at college and is now upstairs. I'm going to get the dinner ready and then do some yoga as I slept too late to get any done before we left this morning! Things are good :) xx
lighter:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on July 31, 2019, 11:16:06 AM ---Well guys, great news! Today has been amazing :) Whoo hoo!
New bed is incredible - my alarm woke me at 7am this morning which is the latest I've slept since we moved here. Sooooo comfortable (the cat thinks so, too). My back is nowhere near as sore as usual and I was so comfy I would have gone back to sleep if I hadn't had to get up :)
I'm so happy to read this, Tupp! Nice bedding, a decent mattress, and kitty tucked in for comfort. Sounds like bed time's improved a good deal. That's wonderful: ) Good sleep is so important.
Bought a dress and a couple of nice tops in the charity shop, very cheap, pretty and summery. Even looked at heels and hats - didn't buy any but thought maybe a bit further down the line might go for hats to ring the changes as I don't have much hair and might even venture into wearing heels every now and again (not sure if I could walk in them now but might have a go).At our charity shop I often find little kitten heel shoes.... often in new condition. Having a nude pair, a black pair, a red pair, and a blue pair are options to consider. Just t TINY heel. I think our clothes absolutely influence the way we feel, sometimes more than others. A pretty summer dress, on hot days, feels different than our same old run around clothes, IME, and I swear feeling better radiates off us like the sun... people can see and feel that too, IME.
The nice mum group - apart from being so nice and welcoming they are setting up formally as a charity and have ideas for various ways to help and support local families. All very informal, low key and non-snobby. Without meaning to sound unkind or ungrateful, I've found in the past that some of the people that run groups aren't always very nice to low income families or if there's a family with a relative in prison or something like that. This group is very different, very down to earth and understand that life is tough and we deal with it as best we can. Really like them. You might find some of your people, Tupp. You never know when they'll come along.
They've asked me to be more involved and we had a team meeting today, at which I offered to be Secretary (they need three roles filled to satisfy the Charity Commission requirements). I explained that I've never done it before but was happy to have a go; one of the guys who's helping ot set it up has worked for charities for years so knows how everything works so is going to talk me through the process and I can send stuff to him to check before it's sent out. Very excited and it's so nice to be part of a group for a change, instead of ploughing through things on my own. They've offered to send me on a Safeguarding course, as well as a First Aid one so I've said yes to both. I'm trying to take opportunities as they come now. I've been scared for years about sticking my head out anywhere in case my mum causes problems but I need to move forward so I've said yes. Absolutely in agreement here. Time to come out, embrace the sun, and dance, Tupp. I have explained to the lady running the group about my mum just in case the many false allegations in my past might cause a problem, or if my mum gets wind that I'm involved and starts phoning social services again, but the lady was fine with it, said various members have got various problems in their background and it's all good. And it is all good :) You did what you could do, proactively. Now it's time to put your mum away, and turn to what's in front of you now.
So a nice day, finally! I don't feel as tired, stressed, run down or demoralised. Son had a nice day at college and is now upstairs. I'm going to get the dinner ready and then do some yoga as I slept too late to get any done before we left this morning! Things are good :) xx Wow, that's a terrific update, Tupp. You're keeping self care in place, and I think sleeping in wasn't a mistake. I think extra sleep was a good thing. You're building more of what you want for tomorrow, seems to me.
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