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lighter:
I think doing what you agreed, then not offering to do more on that document sounds reasonable, Tupp.
Maybe the lady won't actually need it done differently if she's the one who has to do it.
She hasn't thought things through, and it's unfair that you're the one paying the price.
Good for you. Take care of yourself first.
::nodding::.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on October 11, 2019, 05:50:32 AM ---I think doing what you agreed, then not offering to do more on that document sounds reasonable, Tupp.
Maybe the lady won't actually need it done differently if she's the one who has to do it.
She hasn't thought things through, and it's unfair that you're the one paying the price.
Good for you. Take care of yourself first.
::nodding::.
Lighter
--- End quote ---
Thanks, Lighter. I've felt jittery all day since I got the email. I think little things build up and then my body starts to respond with panic, whatever the situation is. I've done yoga so will start to calm down soon. Have got soothing music on. Problems at college have been bugging me - I try not to think about it but I'm aware it's there. The endlessly barking dogs - again, I try to ignore, it's a bit easier now the weather's turned because the doors and windows aren't open as much but they woke me at 6 this morning and I couldn't get back to sleep. We had a late night so I could have done with a bit more sleep than that. Tired through the day now, so that affects me, I'm trying really hard not to stock up on caffeine and sugar to get me through but without it I feel tired and listless. Felt a bit despondent about a friend's reaction to something I told her. Had been able to put it out of my mind but I think the barriers come down when I'm tired and stuff just floods in then and it's much harder to get rid of. Going to the cinema in a bit so that will take my mind off things for a while :) xx
Hopalong:
I get it, Tupp. Here's some script play (toss at your pleasure!)
Dear XX (lady you like a lot) --
Good to hear from you. Gosh, wish I'd gotten this earlier. What I've
done already is based on what we'd all discussed some weeks back,
and it did take hours. I'm afraid I can't start over again now but
I hope this will still helpful! It's attached...do take what's useful
and ignore the rest.
Best,
Tupp
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 11, 2019, 02:35:30 PM ---I get it, Tupp. Here's some script play (toss at your pleasure!)
Dear XX (lady you like a lot) --
Good to hear from you. Gosh, wish I'd gotten this earlier. What I've
done already is based on what we'd all discussed some weeks back,
and it did take hours. I'm afraid I can't start over again now but
I hope this will still helpful! It's attached...do take what's useful
and ignore the rest.
Best,
Tupp
--- End quote ---
Thanks, Hops, that is kind of what I said to her although I don't word things as well as you do :) But I wasn't rude or unpleasant about it, just sent the document through, explained I didn't have time to re-do it in light of the recent changes and said she's welcome to use bits of it if she can. I've got two other things she asked me to do at the same meeting which I will do but only the barest minimum; I get that this is new for her and she's still figuring out the best way to go forward but it's kind of turned into a bit of a pain for me so I think I'm going to ease myself out and work on what's best for me and son.
On a positive note I spent yesterday evening reading up on work you can do from home and have about twenty things to check out and look into so I'm hoping that something there will at least bring in a little bit of cash and start things moving in a different direction for us :) I think the good thing is that, although I have been feeling very down and despondent about our current situation, it has at least shown me what doesn't work for us and what we don't want, so I'm starting from a negative place but in a good way, if that makes sense? Lol, nothing feels like it makes sense at the moment xx
lighter:
Tupp:
Starting from a negative makes perfect sense to me, bc you've already Xd out so many options.... things get easier from that perspective.
Don't forget to network with people in your groups. TELL them you're looking for opportunities you can perform from home. They will know people who know people, and you just never know where things will go.
The saying...
Don't ask, don't get is a meaningful one.
Ask, bc you're certainly worthy, and competent, and committed. All great things an individual or company looking for help would benefit from, IMO.
Lighter
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