Girls are socialized.
Boys are socialized.
People repeat coping strategies they used in childhood.
Some humans can self reflect.
Some can't, and never will.
Assuming everyone has a moral compass is a mistake.
I think I've arrived at the place where there's no denying.....
some people are safe.
Some aren't.
It's a moral imperative to see, to look at others.....
to interpret what they show us, and makeself protective choices, IME.
Some people are masters at misdirection. Some sense the "weakness,"that is compassion, within others, and exploit it.
I don't feel compassion is weakness. I have zero interest in people lacking compassion.
It's discernment, assertiveness, intuition and entitlement to self protection......that's trained out of little girls.......its lacking....for little girls. Absent. Software installed.... and the answer isn't giving up on people, marriage, tribe, but holy guacamole......
tribe, culture, socialization is often dangerous......poisonous, destructive, IME.
Esp to girls and women..... minorities. Destructive to men and boys, also....incels are red flags'a fly'in. Poor dears.
Look around.....mothers destroy their daughters, on purpose.......I look at my girl's friend's FOOs. There's violence, torture, accusations against one DD of seducing the father, so that DD was forced into a shed, with no running water or electricity ...forced to chop wood for a little stove to keep from freezing. We didn't know until years after she moved out, but that's mental illness on both parent's parts, imo.
The torment, I speak of, was done to a male friend who was physically abused and ridiculed by a crazy stepfather.....and the mom knew.....she knew about all of it.
We're unwell and raising unwell children to carry out generational illness and trauma, while pretending to be well and normal, IME.
Divorce rates, and movements like 4B or the 4No's, are logical consequences, imo.
We'll see where things go.
I'd like to be done with....
being surprised by people.
It would be such a relief to bounce over coping, grasping, illogical self defeating choices, more quickly.
Lordy, let discernment lead.
Lighter
There should be no mystery, about that, by now.