bludie, Thanks for the warrning...
I undersand I need to play this game with great caution.
I'm hoping his total frustration will be to leave me...and think he needs to change the locks on me. I'm sure he will start to view both our daughter and myself as the one's with the problem.
Problem would be if, I decide to move to Dallas the N would believe his brother would do whatever he wants him to, like disassociate from me.
Our Daughter wants to move. She has spent several summers and vactions with them. Her cousins are the only family members her age.
My N husband would want to take that from her if he wasn't in the picture.
His brother may say leave me out of this mess...I don't blame him.
I have let him know as the discovery of the N is revealed to me,what we can both expect from my N husband.
I didn't know about this disorder being so devistating when we made the plans to move.
I don't know if honesty is the best policy but if I'm honest then NO surprizes and maybe a little understanding on why I deal with his brother the way I do.
( I'm reading and looking for knowledge from 1st handers
I have found some books and learning there are 4 types and different levels.)
I have not let my husband know what I believe about his disorder because of what I've learned they will Never see it as their problem.
Only Time will tell, I'm worried that the more I learn the less hopeful I become on saving this family from distruction...And will be happy to just get out with my daughter. Life can just suck sometimes...
Thanks for your reflections ....
