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Mindfulness and codependence thread
lighter:
When I take in lots of different information about a topic, it helps me understand, integrate, and recall that information in a helpful manner when I need it.
I see my T today! It's funny.... when I think of her, I can smell my happy tomato garden: )
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Gosh you've been busy on this thread, Lighter, I've missed loads!
I think I've kind of got a handle on my codependence issues at the minute. What I find difficult about new habits and new ways of thinking is keeping them up when busy or stressed. It's easy for things to slip away when you're rushing around a lot. It sounds as if you're managing to keep the balls up in the air, which is good.
I am finding my mindfulness needs a purpose. If I try to think about the washing up as I'm doing it I just feel bored. If I think about how I feel when I walk into the kitchen and it's tidy that feels better for me. And on that note, I am just off to cook lunch :)
Hope your session with you T goes well and that you have fun in your tomato garden :) xx
Hopalong:
I love the happy tomato garden, Lighter.
Your description was so vivid I could see myself there.
Lovely.
A WEIRD question:
Is it possible that one can get lost in mindfulness or that it ever becomes a ... kind of ... escape from stuff? I might be looking for excuses since I'm way too stuck in my head. I'm terrible at meditation or lengthy mindfulness. I've done it enough in workshops etc to know how amazing it can feel, but am never successful at maintaining it for long.
So maybe I'm just looking for a rationale for why I flunk it!
Hops
lighter:
Hops:
If the question is....
Can anything become belly button gazing, faffi g about....
I'm positive the answer is YES.
Like helping an addict....one has to take stock of outcomes. IS the practice helping us get more of what we want, or enabling poor habits and strategies to continue?
As I drive 2 vehicles daily quite often, I'm noticing how confused my brain is over controls....wipers today with the rain....emergency brake, just lots of things.
I assume it's the same with waffling about with minfulnes d's for me, which is imperfect, and difficult to incorporate. That's why I'm seeing this T every week.
I do feel I'm moving waypoints. Last night I found 3 documents out of 6 files I've used over the years for the dock. Chaos rules, but everything I needed was found.
I found 2 letters from MIL to oldest DD, and didn't feel a thing.
That's a huge departure, and I'm learning how to handle my Cows....always will be another Crisis Of the Week.
I think practicing mindfulness consistently will be like driving one vehicle all the time with the confusion of changing up every once in a while. My nervous system will calm down, and give me time to select responses....build new pathways up till they're as familiar as driving a car every day.
I think I have to do that hard work or I'll always fall back on old pathways when under stress.
Daily mindful practice is about beefing up preferred pathways, imo. Cultivating joy in each moment as habit.
I'm ticking this out with one finger while waiting for the bus. Let me know it parts or entire response needs clarification: )
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Lighter, that is amazing news! So great that those letters didn't trigger anything off, and that you were able to find the things you need in the sea of paperwork. I am sometimes amazed when I open a file at how well organised it is despite the fact I have no recollection of doing any of the work :) There is obviously a bit of the brain that just sorts stuff out for us :)
Hops, if it's any consolation, mindfulness and meditation don't work for me, either. Meditation just makes me fall asleep (I think the naps help, though :) ). And I have a problem solving kind of mind, I think. I find I don't want to concentrate my thoughts on what's going on right now, because most of what's going on right now is boring and makes me want to throw myself off a cliff. I function better if I can
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