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Mindfulness and codependence thread
lighter:
The chattiest male neighbor doesn't like the Lady doctor and her ukulele/guitar building world class mountain climbing husband I THINK bc of a bear altercation involving a mama and cub. It was reported the cub was shot. Authorities were sent out. Only the dog was injured and the shot was in the air, but everyone on the community message board went nuts for a while.
The chatty neighbor was quiet and stand offish one minute, then making my elderly neighbor lady titter over things.....I assume funny sly jokes were told with eyes shifting to oblivious doc and hubby who reminds me of Mr. Rogers.
Chatty also talked about the I'll behaved puppy, which is rich, bc he has an even worse behaved puppy of the same age and size. The new puppy ticked off Pug and a Corgy with no social skills....so there were dogs fighting.
The next day Chatty man commented about the doc, mainly, and how odd it was she asked for smoked chicken skin silence she runs a hospital and should know better. He also felt she should know better than to attend our gathering without a mask, which we all did, bc it was all outdoors.
Sometimes it feels a little like they want me to choose between them.....they do nice things for me.....Mr. Rogers made a custom wood worked fake owl mount for my roof and Chatty jumps into lots of my projects....comments....suggests. Mr. Rogers chopped a big root for me the other day.
Only Chatty says negative things....also a little anger issue going on....you see it with his dog.
I know never ever to do a large gathering again. We had small ones on my porch and they were much more fun, esp catered bbq instead of smoked at neighbor's. Too much work and no goid deed goes unpunished.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
It's a shame, Lighter, I've always loved big gatherings, especially the ones where everyone brings something for the table; it means you can all enjoy food together without any one person having to do a huge amount of work for it. But the dynamics can be difficult and it's such a shame that people can't just be polite or just avoid each other for a couple of hours. I stopped having them where we lived before because by the time you'd worked out which people couldn't stand each other, which ones would be offended if they didn't get an invite, which ones would turn up without food but want to eat and which would bring kids/dogs/partners that didn't behave themselves, it just got too much to deal with and it's such a pity. What a shame they couldn't all just get along for a while or at least be polite enough not to draw you into their drama. Sometimes I think it's easier to stick to kids parties and make the adults stay at home lol xx
lighter:
Ugh..... I just remembered my sister telling one of the neighbors to "watch your dog," bc it was attacking the doc's big puppy over and over again... not the fault of the puppy, and the lady just kept allowing the attacks, over and over again, bc she was having a really good time.
The lady snatched up her dog and went home instead of shoving treats, we handed her, into her dog's mouth to keep it occupied.
People are funny creatures.
When our pug went nuts and attacked the same dog..... the pug went home. That was that.
Our third sibling will be visiting tomorrow. Maybe spending the night. We don't know when or for how long he'll show, but it's almost certain he'll be here. My girls have missed him... he's a funny boy.... makes the girls giggle, kind of boy.
We're also shopping Honda CRVs and maybe he can take a look at the one we have a crush on. The touring package is so much nicer than the sport package. We really like the heated leather seats, oh my goodness. This car was driven by an 80something yo lady, who put 5K miles on it in 5 years. I think it's the one; )
Lighter
lighter:
We got the car today....well. They have to buff out a scratch, so will pick up in a day or two, but it's ours.
As I write this I'm emotionally churning as I wait for youngest dd18 and her friend F to get blood labs back on the friend struggling with new medication.
Friend dealing with cptsd, mood disorset....mother never in his life, dad has some type of PD.
F was living with his "mom", but shes an ex gf of the dad. An argument means F can't stay with her for the week until a space opens in a residential living situation F looking forward to joining.
His " mom" wants him in hospital, but they won't keep him, bc he's been cleared.
No shelters are open. "Mom" arguing with F's care team who wants F in a stable situation....not a shelter. Care team happy he's with us tonight. Care team believes he's hyper from new antidepressants. Psych appt tomorrow at 12:30.....is virtual.
I really like F and don't mind him staying here IF he's safe and receiving everything he needs, which will likely be the case.
The idea of him being on the street, with his " mother" washing her hands if him was super upsetting for me.....just an agonizing sadness I barely kept my composure over.
I talked to the " mom", who has a big heart....I mean, taking on a child not her own. She DID that. But leaving him homeless for a week, after talking to the care team and arguing w them.....I don't understand and neither does care team who speak or meet with F daily. F doesn't do drugs or drink....I think it's the trans gender status and CPTSD....how does a child's heart heal that?
F always so grateful and polite in our home, always. I so want him safe till he's in his new situation. I'm also conflicted about the " mom" neeeding something that isn't possible....F remaining in hospital when they just won't keep him....cant keep him. Stories don't line up, and what she said didn't sound like bad behavior to me....she used the word disrespectful....but then....not her child.
DD shares most online classes with F so that should be ok.
So....we have a roast chicken in the oven....a 1000 piece puzzle started yesterday....will be there for us when we get back home. Whatever happens.....F will eat mommy food.....sleep safely and feel very cared for by youngest DD ( DD so like me....I saw it in her response) and 2 mama's in the house Oldest DD not so sure about this arrangement for a week, but willing to stay open to whatever comes next....dd20 spent time with F and really likes him. DD20 has e experience with troubled teens from her time at wilderness camp and therapeutic boarding school. She's very reality based, which is good, imo.
Cross your fingers for us and pray if you will. This poor lamb has a difficult path ahead.
Lighter
Hopalong:
What about your covid risk from this boy staying in your home, Lighter?
How are you managing precautions?
It's very kind of you to take him in, but ... the virus?
Worrying.
Hops
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