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Mindfulness and codependence thread
sKePTiKal:
I'm sorry to hear that Lighter; is there something you can do in that situation beyond just being there to comfort and support? Sending light & hope that all will be well in the outcome.
(I was coming back to re-read that post... kinda disappointed it's gone... but I understand. No worries.)
lighter:
Amber:
We're making and packing food to take to the farm, and brother's house. Just waiting to see who's staying where.
There's 8 hours of driving involved, so have to plan this out.
Our Asian market carries 50lb bags of rice, and sauces from their Country of Origin they can't get where they live. Will load the truck up, and take that off their plates.
Will get some gift cards for groceries, and send with a note.
I associate food and feeding people/being fed with care and support.
My sister and I spent a lot of time trying to stay positive, send good thoughts, and not catastrophize yesterday with inconsistent results.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Food is absolutely one of the best things for comfort and helping out Lighter. Traditional "southern" response, too.
When my friend was having horrendous stress at work, caring for her elderly mom, and awful menopausal/hormone issues... I ante'd up a couple months worth of some of those "meals by mail" per week. It took the shopping, planning, and just deciding what to eat - off her plate, so to speak. She kept up with it too, until the situation changed and they regrouped at home, to manage things on their own again. She figured the cost worked out about an even trade-off, when you figured in all the driving/time involved in getting things pulled together to cook.
And they got to try some new recipes, too.
Hopalong:
Lighter,
I'm so sorry your late Dad's caretaker's grandson has this diagnosis.
Forgive this if it's over-analytical. But fwiw, in case it's a helpful clue to some awareness or other...
I get sorrow. Heart pang. Concern. Love and help (yours sounds perfect).
I don't quite get "fear".
I found myself musing...are you feeling terror that isn't yours actually, that may come from hypervigilant years?
IOW, sad FOR ANOTHER is compassion. Fear FOR ANOTHER might be...something from somewhere else?
Fear, when someone you are directly intimately related to is sick, makes sense. But this child isn't that direct relation unless I'm wrong (because we adopt many non-related folks into our Phamilies, I know).
I am only asking about the fear ("very scary") piece. In hopes that your care and love and compassion will be where your response to this situation dwells. Not fear.
You don't need a new fear source. This child will be loved and cared for. Then what will be will be.
hugs
Hops
lighter:
https://contextualscience.org/the_six_core_processes_of_act
I was talking about the shoulder patting technique the other day. I'm pretty sure T used the word ACT. Above is information about that.
I also attached a site with information with all the things I've been bringing up woven through. It's explaining a program they're inviting people to join, but people are welcome to sign up for the free broadcast. If they join they're able to get transcrips and access to the program any time.
https://www.nicabm.com/program/compassion-1/?del=11.11.19MondayAnnouncetoUnreg
There's an informative video on this link ABOUT the program, which helps pull together different things I've been touching on.
Lighter
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