I ignored text from YG yesterday. He sent a photo of rocks pleasantly arranged like flowers in dirt.
He hasn't come near the house, instead walking past our street instead of down it and pasp my house.
Youngest dd18 and I saw him go by yesterday morning without comment.
She's alert to male voices now. If she thinks she hears one she's down the stairs, calling for me, prepared to run interference, which is a little sad, but....
She's stepping up, as equal grown adult, by my side.....no longer requires protection. She's learned how to protect and be protective...on my team, I guess. I'm on hers. It's good. I think the fact I'd rather crush my ankle than BE IN this situation is at once very funny to her, but also...
ticking her off, bc she has the same fine tuned need for justice.
Back to YG. He walked by our street in afternoon yesterday while I was walking neighbor's trash cans up their drive. The pug barked like mad, giving away YG's position....his arm shot up in a wave when he saw me look. I waved once while turning back to the cans, dropping my head and eyes. Busy busy busy, I am. Just, always will be AND I'm covered up, going in many directions now....dealing with important issues.
Too busy to answer his call this morning....he typically doesn't call at all, but I'm sure he's worried about explaining his complete withdrawal from his typical routine. To be fair, he walked this route when prior occupants owned this house. It wasn't my presence or arrival kicking off his walking habits or routes. He's walked this way for 25 years. It wasn't my milkshake bringing him to my yard.
So, he's in a pickle.
I....
am not.
Serenity restored. Even if he walks this way again, he can't upset my headspace now I've calmed myself and tended to the reactivity.
One step further, I've arranged to borrow elderly neighbor's ruding lawn mower to cut grass at the head of the trail...only small part is mine, but it needs cutting and YG was doing it, bc...."it was snakey" according to him.
I agree with him there.
Lighter
P.S. Once I wrapped my mind around him walking me miles into the woods then springing innapropriate personal and insane things on me.....I got pretty focused on what, exactly, happened between us and how I feel about it. Not cool, 6'4" YG. Not cool at all.