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Mindfulness and codependence thread
Hopalong:
--- Quote ---I realize I have an image of it.... an idea of what it has to be..... and it always includes escalation, but that doesn't have to be how it goes
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This sounds very perceptive, Lighter. When I studied assertiveness we literally practiced scenarios over and over, role played is what I mean. I think we can shrink the interval between the shock and the speaking up immediately, until it gets better. Heartbreaking to know your D believes there's nothing she can do.
Highly recommend The Gift of Fear for your D, which has been updated. IME, it didn't increase fear but increased confidence. Plus, an assertiveness training course. They're not as common as they were in the 60s but would be worth a drive.
Meanwhile, why rush your covid recovery? Relapse can happen with any virus if you don't genuinely take it easy and focus on letting your body get all the way well.
hugs
Hops
Hopalong:
How are you feeling, Lighter??
A friend around the corner just got it. The Post has an article about people in covid denial. I think we need to keep the measures going whether or not we enjoy them. A longer life and later joys...to me are worth simple effort, imo. My church requires N95s and I can't breathe well enough in those to enjoy it, so I am out for now.
I hope you're smelling, tasting, and feeling your lungs work okay. Do you have a pulse oximeter, the fingertip thing?
hugs
Hops
lighter:
Hi, Hops.
I'm up and running today...... took the pug to the vet for bum and paw maintenance, washed all the bedding, roasted a 6 lb chicken, walked a good mile with the Pug, gave her a bath and worked with her new sunglass goggles to ensure a good experience, meaning.... I popped sauteed chicken livers into her mouth as she sat with the glasses on her face. I made sure to take them off and not let her paw them off, which she really really really wanted to do. I'm hoping she'll leave them alone if we're moving at a rapid pace in the forest. IF I bring tasty morsels the first few times I have a better shot at gaining her acceptance.
So, during my movement I noticed I'm still a bit weak AND I can't push on anything with the left arm STILL. It clicks and explodes in pain...... like a little bone comes apart and back together but it's not a bone. It's swelling and nerves and picture bumping your elbow with a little force. I've done something more forceful and I can feel the pins and needs and a bit of discomfort at it goes through the process of healing..... it will heal. I know it will. It's soft tissue an nerves and swelling and I can't even push my little Honda door open or hold an onion with my left hand to cut.... but I can lift any amount of weight. it's the pushing muscles not the pulling muscles that are involved.
My lungs keep producing interesting chunks of phlem.... very solid things. I don't know what color they are.....I never remember to look, but it feels like I'm through the virus and on the other side.
I've had a couple moments of feeling very angry about not being able to just do normal things,but that's what comes up when I don't want to acknowledge the sadness of being injured or understanding things will eventually change for me...... I won't always be climbing onto steep rooftops and moving heavy things by myself. Acceptance around those things isn't on my radar right now, but I'll deal with it when it's time.
It's not time yet.
DD19 is sneezing her head off. She felt she might have Covid but keeps testing N..... it's allergies, has to be.
I spoke to one of my nieces for an hour tonight....she reminds me so much of myself. She's happier and settling into her 5 mo old job she hated at first. Competence and uplifting co workers are making a difference.
My oldest dd received a much smaller raise than she deserves and I can't say anything about it, so I don't, but...... it's not fair and she knows it.
My back is unhappy...... where I had some pain during the Covid.... it's just there and a bit sensitive. I'm going to floss and brush my teeth then it's into bed for me.
Thanks for asking: )
Lighter
lighter:
Taste and smell is returning... forgot that. I had a tangerine earlier and could smell it! Whoo hoo!
Hopalong:
You are a functioning, working human, for sure, Lighter.
Have you considered a simple x-ray in case a cast or sling
might stabilize the arm for faster healing? Just in case it
would heal better with less risk of future pain or weakness.
Then again, I ignored PT after it made the frozen shoulder
hurt worse and it got much much better on its own. So far.
Glad taste and smell are back and hope all systems are soon
covid free.
hugs
Hops
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