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Mindfulness and codependence thread
Hopalong:
For my novel, which has a timeline in the 60s, I use a mix of physical folders and mostly online (Google Drive, which I've gotten pretty comfortable with).
I can barely organize a grocery list or piece of mail IRL, but seem to not have trouble sorting writing stuff. When I am doing it, which is the big issue.
I recommend Googling searches such as:
how to organize memoir research
Loads of answers there...and rabbit holes! Have fun.
(I'm a BIG fan of sub-folders. I have a folder for each chapter and others for locations, scenes, notes for future scenes, etc. Just title them in ways that make sense to you.)
hugs
Hops
lighter:
Thanks, Hops. Very helpful and I'll try to "hop" over some of the wabbit holes; )
Lighter
lighter:
Lots going on this week.... the post op friend, who died on the table with a heart attack and by pass surgery, is moving at the end of the month and wants to keep everything..... but shouldn't. I will let him, if that's his choice. It's good to hear him laugh again. It's been a while. My trying to wrestle his marked up, kicked around 25 year old VERY HEAVY bed away from him, where he convolesced and ended 4 very toxic relationships is something I intend to avoid.... if he doesn't feel he's gotten his monie's worth yet.... that's his to feel. Not my circus,not my clowns.
Another friend just broke off an engagement wth her fiance. Saturday 3 Amazon friends will go to her ex's home and attempt to pack up her long list of belongings. I don't feel good about that. It's more likely all those items will be on fire in the yard and I just want to say...... that's the cost of learning those hard lessons. If she gets nothing back, including the engagement ring, she still wins bc she avoided marrying this toxic person. It will have to be enough. I see that so clearly now.
My girls are strugglign with college choices and growing up just seems to be more difficult than it was in my day. I'm practicing boundaries and mostly winning there. It's not easy.
There's a confusing situation inTX I'm trying to put to bed. I just spoke with an attorney who explained TX is known as a "debt beater's State" bc the laws are written to make collection of court judgments virtually impossible. To say I'm not surprised is an understatement.
Whatever happens Saturday, with the personal property exchange, we're having an Amazon bonfire and you guys are invited. I'm guessing start time will be 4pm. Bring something to grill and come as you wish to be remembered; )
Lighter
lighter:
Saturday's exchange of property went about the way one would expect, if one party is unhinged.
We were denied access to the stuff. The cops came and spoke to our friend and then the ex...... in all honesty, the ex demanding we find professional and licensed movers to load the truck was a blessing and that happened.
SO much stuff and the guys loaded it with efficiency at a very good price with short notice. There wasn't a spare inch in that box truck and some of the big boxes were full of books. It was 96 degrees and two of us are over 60.... one was over 70. Unloading in cooler temps, with rain spitting, made things go easier, but it wasn't ideal.
Everyone stayed safe and I hope I'm as strong and capable when I'm 70+ yo... she hopped herself UP into that hot airless truck and would have done ANY part of the job.... I mean.... true Amazon warrior, there. Very much CALL THE MIDWIFE vibes on the day. Settled for grilling under an umbrella, bc it was pouring rain by the time we finished. We'll have the bonfire soon.
The friend with the upcoming estate sale has his sense of humor back and has accepted the heavy, large things need to go, whoo hoo!
My things are moving along. Lots of tadpoles and eggs on the porch. I have new references for electricians and plumbers who like to fish and vacation, so those phone calls are happening today,
70yo friend is writing a book and will look at the lake as sanctuary to to do that while we're waiting on uppstairs to get finished. If we get the place ready by fall, she'll have her yearly group retreat there.... if not too large. She wants to go to the island to celebrate finalizing the book. It would be nice if that works out.
Lighter
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Pug enjoying the baby Dutch rabbit puppet...... as a toy....and we we puppet it like it's real.... something magical about pug's desire to tear it limb from limb and it's ability to remain in tact, so far. Much sturdier than her normal toys.
Youngest DD20 brought home the French chef......lead singer in a band..... ex combat marine..... ex casino security who knows 6 martial arts and how to use a karambit and has some wood/metal/basic constructions skills..... I'm quite "chuffed", as Tupp says.
Honestly, the vision of the chef Horst from Ratatouille pops up.....
"I keeled a man wis zees thumb."
I just heard him cough like my little cousin used to cough....sounds croupy.....
and that breaks my heart, bc he has heart problems requiring surgery..... I think from an explosion that sent him home from active duty in Afghanistan. He jokes he's dying... has a great sense of humor..... but I wonder if he's telling the truth. I see he wears a heart monitor all the time. Will ask him about that after we compare Karambits.
My sister arrives tomorrow so I'm busy in the house.... SO humid and hot out. Frogs keep leaving eggs and the tadpoles keep growing on the porch. I'm washing all the quilts on benches...... filling vases with fresh flowers and greenery...... tidying front porch too. I can hear hawks hunting in the yard, so pug can't go out on her own. She'd be a tender tasty morsel and a neighbor one street over posted a hawk with a muskrat sat down in her cement birdbath....too heavy to carry off, but the hawk is making a meal of it, just the same.
The part didn't arrive for the island water main repair, and "caretaker" suspects water will be out a month. August guests have been warned about the problem and I'm trying to not think about it. Can't change it by worrying and the freighter arrives when it arrives.
I plan to zip to the lake, take some pics for the electrician, fill up truck with stuff for estate sale this weekend and edit kitchen stuff. I really love my Grandparents knives and pans, etc....will be trading out and curating...... editing heavily..... but it's hard for me.
And I'm breathing easily these days..... it's easier. New brain pathways present and I choose them most of the time or notice when I don't..... very grateful to T!
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