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Twoapenny:
Oh Bettyanne, you and Bill sound as if you were made for each other!  That on its own is an incredible achievement.  What an amazing life you've given one another.  I think you can be very proud of the fact that, whatever your mum did, it didn't stop you from being able to love and be a good mum yourself.  You've raised a lovely family.  And a wedding to look forward to as well!  I love weddings :) I've found I've done the opposite with my son that my parents did with us.  We never had nice bedrooms.  Everything for us was an after thought.  The rest of the house was much more important.  I was always very jealous of school friends who had those lovely themed bedrooms, with matching bed covers and curtains.  My son's bedroom has always had a theme, usually picked up from charity shops!  I expect you did the same with yours when they were little.  I found it was like I re-parented myself when I did things like that for him - I don't know if you found the same?

I hope the Kaytruda contines to help.  Give Bill a big cuddle from us xx

lighter:
Bettyanne, please remember to take good care of yourself.  In these circumstances it's too easy to drop all self care, and focus on your loved one exclusively.

That's a mistake, IME.  You can't respond as effectively if you're drained, and not filling your cup, so to speak. 


Even if it feels odd.... please take time out to DO for yourself.  Whether it's stopping for a calm cup of coffee while out running errands, or adding time to your bathroom ritual.... candles, scented epson salt bath with lovely calming music, or new lovely shampoo and skin care products that make you feel good.  Just make a little time for YOU.

Lighter

ps  CAKE WRECKS website is
very funny TOO! 

Hopalong:
That's great news about the Kaytruda, Bettyanne!
I hope you and Bill can savor many extra days of more comfort and peace.

It's so nice to read about your and Bill's loving, affectionate life together...
sixty years together! That's astonishing! And it's so lovely that there's a wedding to come,
with its joys and poignant change.

I can see the goodness in you and in your life path. I hope you can keep your eyes and heart
trained on that, going forward. It's really hard to wrench your mind away from rumination on the awful past, isn't it? (Rumination is also known as one of the characteristics of depression.)

I love hearing more positive thoughts come into your posts. When it comes to the past, you have a lot of happy things, about loving Bill and loving your children, to remember and reflect on. I so hope that will soon overpower the painful stuff, or that therapy will help you bring the painful stuff up in such a way that you can work to get more control over those thoughts. There are people who spend their entire old-old age sitting in a chair re-living the worst parts of their lives. And there are others who stay present and work hard to fill their minds with peace. I think you can be one of the latter!

Hope you and Billy have a beautiful afternoon today.

Hugs
Hops

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