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Hopalong:
Back to the personal side of quarantine life for a mo'--
I have one friend (my closest, who's been coming to my house once a week to meet outside). She's not being pushy about it, but is interested in trying to meet, just the two of us, indoors when weather's bad. We'd sit well apart and both wear masks. We both know how paranoid I am about the virus, we're the same age, etc. I think she would be considerate (for example, if she used the bathroom I know she'd carefully disinfect on the way out). But I'm still a bit scared of doing that. She's cautious too, but I've found her throughout sort of relentlessly optimistic.
I'm just a bit more rigid about precautions than she is, but not by a lot--and know there's a big diference between an enclosed space and outside. She has family members from other cities who have stayed with her, so I'd want her to quarantine for two weeks (regarding her I mean) after they had left. Perhaps three, since the two weeks is an arbitrary period. This article sums up that:
https://www.medpagetoday.com/infectiousdisease/generalinfectiousdisease/84963
She quotes "quarantine for 14 days" as though it's guaranteed safety and I'm just not convinced. And her partner, though he does take the usual precautions, is not quite as reliable about doing it every single time as I think she is. Overall I think she'd be a "quite safe" person to try this with but not a "very safe" person. Still, it could make a big mental health difference, I think. I wouldn't want to do the same at her house because of her partner, I don't think.
Anyhow, wondered if y'all think that would be crazy.
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
It's very difficult, Hops, because so much of this is unproven - it's such a new disease and they're still finding out so much about it that it's very hard to know what the most reliable information is, or even if that information is correct (it may come to light that information they're giving out now turns out to be wrong - we just don't know).
I have decided my personal approach is to judge each situation and balance high risk of catching the virus against physical/mental health and or anxiety caused by meeting people. I think if you would feel safer with three weeks rather than two then go with that. I personally think (for myself, at least) that we'll be doing some sort of human contact over the winter because I think six months sitting indoors on my own is just not going to do me any favours. Would you feel safer wrapping up well on a cold day and heading out for a walk with her rather than sitting indoors? I just wondered if you're both flexible enough to meet up only on dry days when you can get out easily enough?
Hopalong:
Yes, I'd feel safer outdoors at any point during all this.
Right now, temperatures feel like 99 degrees F, and it's also very humid, so sitting outside doesn't feel possible. The intense heat will break at some point so we'll be able to grab those lovely days and continue meeting outside.
But that's why it came up. This sudden massively hot wave of weather just hit this region so she and I are going through withdrawal from our reliably weekly visits.
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
I'm pretty good with solitary activities and keeping myself entertained. It helps that Hol is around and we do usually connect up with each other once or twice a day. I have a couple different forums I participate in online - and it usually involves friendship now as we've been together as a group for years now. Like here.
One thing I've been doing that's sort of a combo of entertainment and working on myself, is watching a number of tarot readers on youtube. What I find interesting is it's less prediction these days - than digging down into energies that may be assisting or hindering people in their development/healing. There are many many styles of decks these days; and even the readers seem to do different kinds of things. Some claim almost psychic ability through intuition, or they "channel", or claim ye olde spirit guides or angels are sharing messages... kind of thing.
But I have found a handful of readers that seem to be useful as I'm sorting out and trying to release all the old crap that still lingers in my habitual interactions with people. They tend to suggest energy trends and personality traits they see in the cards - to be utilized in that work to become one's "best most authentic self". Some of them tend to use VERY plain language, word to the wise... but not all. Some are quite funny too; others seem to just ooze empathy. They are reading for what they call "the collective" - the group of people by astrological sun, moon or rising sign.
I'm not saying it's a replacement for a good therapist, but if you're working on your own - at that stage of things - you might find it interesting or even insightful in whatever you're currently going through. They tend to stress that no matter what the cards are indicating, one always has free will and choice in the matter - and that not everything in a particular reading will pertain to everyone in that collective.
In the end - it's another thing to do; pass the time while I'm waiting for the heatwave to break and I'm not running the risk of making myself ill trying to do too much physical work in this heat.
lighter:
A friend in Georgia has COVID 19.
I can't say I feel terrified for her. I have the feeling she'll be OK, even though she has immune issues and is overweight.
Now I'm focusing on it.... it is pretty scary.
Lighter
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