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lighter:
Hops:
You didn't ask for advice so I'll say this....
A maid who believes in masks and virus protection would wear her mask properly.

This maid TOLD you shed wear her mask to get the job, imo.

The way she wire her mask tells you she doesn't believe in wearing a mask and likely will tear it off when she's in private.

Are there out-of-work go getters, with amazing energy, attention to detail AND your shared belief in virus protection?

It would be one thing if it was her own health she jeopardized....but it's yours too.

Paying someone for hours, days and weeks of worry seems self defeating to me.

I'd certainly talk to her if I didn't replace her.

Lighter
P.S. Think of flu season coming...
every sniffle....every cough you'll be wondering if she left a vapor trail in your home. And....DID she?

cats paw:
  I saw The Rock (actor) saying he and his family recovered from covid, and he said it was one of the toughest things he had endured. He said they had gotten together with close trusted friends, who were asymptomatic at the time.

  I think there are a lot of people who are "neither hostile nor serious about masks." The virus has many useful idiots, witting and unwitting. My own housekeeper has not been here for a long time. She seems to "get it" about the virus, but doesn't "get it" enough to be in my home for any extended period of time. She and her family have been going to restaurants indoors. Cases are rapidly rising in my area, and no one seems to be observing capacity limits. Just because things are allowed doesn't mean they are safe, much less correctly implemented.

  There are no guarantees of safety, and we all have to deal with certain risks. I am even concerned for 2 weeks after dh or I have any contact with masked health care providers. Though having a nanny cam in every room would verify that she kept her mask on, it wouldn't be a zero risk.

  It's really hard to have limitations and to need help at any time, much less during a pandemic.  I really miss being able to do what I used to, (even though I intensely, intermittently hated domestic chores due to their connotations in my mind) whenever I chose to or needed to. I was so glad when dh asked why I didn't get a housekeeper when my back was getting worse. Now, I have to muddle along as best I can.

  No perfect choices. You've spoken with your doctor, and it sounds like you have (almost) made your choice.

  Domestically challenged sister-in-arms,
  cp

Hopalong:
This discussion helped a LOT, guys! Thank you all.

Tupp, thanks. I share your worries about mask behavior--at another level when I think I need to bring a person indoors for an extended time.

Lighter, you described her attitude astutely when I was trying to PR (public-relation) it to myself. (realityismyfriend....) My neighbor is more casual than I am and has gotten in trouble with her hires before. So I'm just uncertain I can trust this woman to be serious. She's pleasant and got the cleaning done, but I want to feel at ease about her, and I don't.

Cat I hear you. You get it too. The real deal is, I'm going to have to discipline myself as soon as injury heals which can be a couple months, is to get serious about doing all I can do myself, a little a day. I can do more than I have, that's for sure. And once my body's able, the remaining issue is corralling the ADD enough to see a chore through.

All will be well either way, but I think I'm going to let go of the new person and hunt for another. Have a query out to my previous dog-sitter who's much in demand for cleaning and takes science and evidence and experts as real and worthy of believing. (Incredible to say, isn't it.) My doc is very smart and he told me the new emphasis is less on disinfecting (though that matters too) and MOST on wearing masks ALWAYS when around others not in your household...but even a housecleaner in an empty house should, because of newer research on how the microdroplets are exhaled with every breath in wide plumes that linger aloft for several hours. So an asymptomatic carrier near you, or who was where you are now walking/breathing an hour or so previously, can give you Covid.

That got through to me! Back in my quarhog hole. But with a plan. Thanks again everybody.

hugs
Hops

lighter:
I'm glad you plan to hire someone else, Hops.  I'm picturing a retired Army wife with 5 boys.....and a no nonsense attitude about masks.

Really....being in the house while it's cleaned means you can make sure the mask stays on.  No guessing or worrying, kwim?

Hopalong:
Yes, thanks Lighter.
Plan B or C if I can't secure someone else is to stay here while she cleans and pop out of my room randomly, and just make sure she knows I mean it about the mask and ABOVE the nose.

So odd a concern to figure out living with!

(I'd ask her to clean my room first but the issue would linger....as I don't want to be hovering over her in every space she's in. Not a perfect answer yet but I'm working on it all....)

Hops

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