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Hopalong:
Tupp, I can imagine how jarring it must've felt to find those notes from the tutor. I wonder if moving at that time seemed scary and stressful to your son, or if he was reacting to all the changes or prospect of them.
Change is quite hard on people with autism, as I understand it. Not exhilarating or exciting, just scary. Or maybe he was picking up on all the stress and intensity you were feeling. He's a sensitive guy deep inside and I wonder if it must be hard to express his emotional life sometimes?
I'm so glad that he responded well in your conversation with him. He's grown in inner strength in his own ways just as you have during this time.
We're all being tested one way or another. Sorry that paper turned up to rattle you.
Be extra good to yourself next week, friend. You've been having a rough go the last few days. I am mentally shooting arrows of light into those gray clouds over your head!
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 31, 2020, 05:44:41 AM ---Tupp, I can imagine how jarring it must've felt to find those notes from the tutor. I wonder if moving at that time seemed scary and stressful to your son, or if he was reacting to all the changes or prospect of them.
Change is quite hard on people with autism, as I understand it. Not exhilarating or exciting, just scary. Or maybe he was picking up on all the stress and intensity you were feeling. He's a sensitive guy deep inside and I wonder if it must be hard to express his emotional life sometimes?
I'm so glad that he responded well in your conversation with him. He's grown in inner strength in his own ways just as you have during this time.
We're all being tested one way or another. Sorry that paper turned up to rattle you.
Be extra good to yourself next week, friend. You've been having a rough go the last few days. I am mentally shooting arrows of light into those gray clouds over your head!
hugs
Hops
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I don't think I explained it very well Hops, it was the tutor that was the problem, not son. I'm very aware of the difficulties he has with moving house and the notes weren't about that xx
Hopalong:
Oh I'm sorry, Tupp.
I thought the tutor might've been talking about that with him because for some reason he'd brought it up or made comments that she interpreted as important enough to "strategize" with him. Waaaaay too many assumptions on my part, and sharing with you my brilliant insights about how an autistic kid might feel about moving house was very inappropriate. I apologize for that too.
And how inappropriate it was for her to initiate that kind of conversation with him rather blows my mind. One should NEVER get between a child and their mother, unless abuse is suspected. We all know how that has scalded and harmed you in the past, so I can understand why it was triggering to run across the note.
That really was a weird thing for her to do. Curious: Was she young? Relatively inexperienced? I'm glad it's well past, and didn't mean to poke a bruise. Please forgive my lapse into cluelessness.
I think you explained it fine; I just went off on a knowitall-tangent. (I'm good at those.)
humble hug,
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 31, 2020, 08:17:08 AM ---Oh I'm sorry, Tupp.
I thought the tutor might've been talking about that with him because for some reason he'd brought it up or made comments that she interpreted as important enough to "strategize" with him. Waaaaay too many assumptions on my part, and sharing with you my brilliant insights about how an autistic kid might feel about moving house was very inappropriate. I apologize for that too.
And how inappropriate it was for her to initiate that kind of conversation with him rather blows my mind. One should NEVER get between a child and their mother, unless abuse is suspected. We all know how that has scalded and harmed you in the past, so I can understand why it was triggering to run across the note.
That really was a weird thing for her to do. Curious: Was she young? Relatively inexperienced? I'm glad it's well past, and didn't mean to poke a bruise. Please forgive my lapse into cluelessness.
I think you explained it fine; I just went off on a knowitall-tangent. (I'm good at those.)
humble hug,
Hops
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Nothing to apologise for, Hopsie, I was vague about it so it wasn't clear she was the problem, she was my age with kids my son's age so I suspect the usual public sector problem we have of people walking into situations they don't understand, deciding you're doing it all wrong and sticking their noses in with no clear idea of why or what the outcome will be. I'm wondering now if she was the reason he was saying he didn't want to go. He said a couple of phrases at the time that didn't sound like him but as he was going to Youth Club I assumed he'd picked them up from the other kids. Doesn't matter now, I just get baffled at the lack of common sense and forethought that so many of them display but there we are. The important thing was I didn't break my diet! And have stuck to it today as well.
In Covid news, dopey face has (I think) announced another national lockdown from next week although he's leaving schools, colleges and universities open which, along with all the key workers is probably about half the country still going out every day. Due to end beginning of December if they get infections down; they've just announced 1 million people infected since it started and between 42 and 62 thousand Covid related deaths, depending on which set of figures you use. Our local area has dropped slightly again today though and if they shut a lot down again next week hopefully we'll get down to zero again soon, at least in our little bit. What an absolute pigs ear they have made of all of this. High death rate and trashed economy. Couldn't even pick one or the other.
Trick or treat was banned so son and I did our own indoors; he knocked on the sitting room door and I gave him some chocolate lol. He's had his face painted all day (he did it himself this morning) and we're going out for a walk in a bit just to look at some of the decorations that are up. We did our little pumpkin and it's in the window as we speak. It has finally stopped raining which is a relief, I think it's been a solid week of downpours? xx
Twoapenny:
It's bedlam here. People have been panic buying all weekend and the shops are empty. Why on earth do people do it? We only run out because people hoard; the shops won't be closing, they get deliveries every day, it will literally be no different to any other time. I just can't believe the stupidity, again, even seeing how stupid it was last time hasn't stopped them. 'We will not comply' is trending on Twitter, I mean, seriously? What part of 'this is really serious' do they not get? It has been appallingly handled, we could be in a much better place than we are, people have worked really hard to re-open their businesses and to have to shut them again could have been avoided with decent testing and contact tracing, plus assurances that wages would be covered if people had to stay home. But surely people can see that behaving like dicks is just going to make it worse for longer? I am truly baffled. Roasting peppers, beetroot and garlic for dinner tonight, lots of vitamins and anti-oxidants. Weigh in tomorrow, end of first week, I'll let you know if I've lost any weight :) xx
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