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Hopalong:
Ahhhh, ((((Tupp)))), you have such a kind heart.
It's not just compulsion-to-solve-problem, it's empathy.
But you do know you are doing your first considerable job, which is to keep
yourself (and likewise your son) Covid free, despite others' recklessness.
I recall some helpful gossip you heard about this old fellow, that he's gotten
skilful at manipulating others to feel responsible for him. And that he's been
unpleasant (or possibly abusive?) -- hence family steer clear and he's not
awash in friends.
That doesn't mean nobody should alert a local agency or church if he's
in emergency straits, just that he is kind of sitting in his own solitude
right now just as so many are. It's a lot harder for the very old, but it's still
part karma, part luck...and perhaps sometimes, part personality.
Who knows whom he actually DID beat up in his time? Perhaps he was a
"crap man" too when younger? It's good to feel compassion, but he might be someone who if he senses a kind nature, might ooze right in to maneuver you into responsibility. You already have so much on your plate.
You're the only one who can figure out what's right for you to do regarding him.
I just hope you won't let toxic guilt creep in to sully whatever you decide.
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
Thanks, Hops, it's okay, I'm keeping my distance. I'm getting better at feeling something's not good but not feeling like it's my responsibility to deal with that. I think at the moment everyone I speak to, in whatever capacity, is struggling - either because of not seeing people, because they think it's not real and they're being controlled, because they think it's very likely to kill them, because their business is going under or they aren't earning enough to pay their mortgage, everyone's having a bad experience with this so it's hard not to feel bad for people - part of being human, I guess. But - myself and son come first (and I will update on my new action plan on the other thread lol).
We are in full national lockdown again here, until at least mid Feb but quite honestly I think it will be longer. Several hospitals have closed their doors to any more patients, some have canceled routine surgeries and procedures, many are operating at a capacity that means they can't provide good quality care to their existing patients. They reckon approximately 1,000,000 people are infected at the minute. We had acupuncture this morning so walked into town early; it wasn't that quiet? A lot more people are working through this one, it would seem. The session was nice and we caught the bus home; that was quiet so that was good and we won't be out again now until Saturday, when I have my hospital scan booked. I feel that all we can really do is stay home as much as possible and just be grateful that the days are starting to get longer again and we're getting some really nice afternoon sun at the moment. Little things xx
Twoapenny:
Well some good news, although confusing - our county is currently one of the safest in the country, which is really good to know. What has confused me is that the county along from ours (which you can only get into by driving through the county I live in) is very bad, even though they're even more rural than us and have a smaller population over a larger area. I struggle to get my head around that - busy towns and cities, of course are likely to be more affected, but I'd have assumed any sparsely populated country would have an easier time. Anyway, it's cheered me up a bit - still locked down, obviously, and still not taking any chances but it's nice to know the supermarket probably isn't the death trap I thought it was.
Hopalong:
I hope that lasts, ((((Tupp)))!
I've made two changes in my personal practice:
1) Instead of one mask, I'm now wearing two. A simple surgical mask first, topped with a pleated cloth mask. Lucky it's winter--I'm finding it quite comfortable.
2) Not that I was much anyway, but I'm going out only to go to pod-partner's (M's) house a few times a month. I can't find any need to physically go anywhere except for the odd walk.
Since it's respiratory, viral and that's the biggest transmission, for me the double-mask feels comforting and empowering.
The rest is up to time. May be summer before I'm vaccinated and from what I read, we need to wear masks anyway. Vaccination doesn't guarantee not getting it, though of course it'll help.
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
Sounds sensible to me, Hopsie. I feel safer now we're back in lockdown; there are just fewer people out and about which naturally means more space between people. Doesn't stop the virus in its tracks, obviously, but it has made a difference on local numbers already which has to be a good thing. And I think it will get easier again as we head back to spring and summer, just because socially distanced sitting outside becomes possible again and that helps.
Information about vaccines here seems to be changing frequently. I think we've just had a third approved for use. They've vaccinated about a million over 80s so far and have agreed to vaccinate frontline healthcare workers as a priority. Son is currently in Priority group 6 so is expected to come to the top of the list in March. Unpaid carers (like myself) are currently not scheduled as a priority but various groups are pressuring for that to change and if it does, I should get mine at the same time as son. If not, between June and September has been suggested (and all of this assumes that they roll out as they're planning to). As I understand it the vaccine won't be a miracle solution, as you say, distancing, masks and common sense will need to be employed for a long time yet and some docs/science people here think lockdowns over winter for the next few years might prove to be necessary. I suppose it depends on other countries vaccinating as well and whether we really get on top of it all. At the mo I'm feeling grateful that we can stay in a lot; son seems to be perfectly happy and I feel less anxious as the numbers are dropping nearby. Plus it's cold! I'm getting out for my morning walks, getting son out most days when its dry but will be very glad to see sunshine and long sunny days again :) I forget how much I miss the sun until I see it again :) xx
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