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lighter:
Sorry you couldn't get out of going to jury duty post op, P.

Lighter

Hopalong:
At an outdoor funeral, can you stand at least 6' from others and wear an N95 mask, Phyl? I think I'd feel safe doing that. (I went to a funeral a month ago and feel lucky I didn't get ill. Kept my mask on during the service but the entire unmasked local congregation was singing loudly and I realized I was mistaken to be there. Told my friend I needed air and went outside about halfway through.)

As to PT, etc. -- if they're following all precautions there, I hope you can continue.

Jury duty, too.

Wear your mask with dignity and take care of yourself, Phyl.

Hops

Hopalong:
How things overlap. Unusual comment in the NYTimes today:

lulugirl765
Midwest
Aug. 7
I’ve met my fair share of anti-vaxxers and Covid deniers. They all have one thing in common. They believe they have a particular insight and are smarter than everyone else, thinking they see a reality only they are special enough to see. Their sense of identity is to BE an exception and exempt from everyone else. Debunking whatever theory or viewpoint they have leads to doubling down, it doesn’t address the need to be special and have insight that others (sheep) lack. So being wrong kicks them in the core of self-esteem, and they will defend that at all costs. And yes, it often co-exists with defensiveness over a lack of education, or not paying attention. I’ve met anti-vaxxer nurses and even here they think they have special insight as nurses into "untested" tech. They don’t let go of that self-esteem because this personality type knows they are broken, they lie on the borderline, narcissistic and anti-social spectrum, even just mildly. They’ve been beaten down as kids and beaten down as adults. The virus doesn’t care, but they will sit in the ICU denying they have Covid because they can’t be wrong or that fragile thread of special self-esteem breaks. I say we have to let them alone, because they are even more dangerous cornered with their reality.

Phyll:
I decided to go to the funeral service of my sister-in-law this Saturday.  Plan to stay 6 feet apart and wear the N95 mask.  It is outdoors.  W (my NH) is furious, demanding a pro and con list of my decision making based on science not emotion.  I have learned it is better not to argue so I will not provide him with my list. 

lighter:
What do you do when faced with W's rage, P?

My youngest DD19 had 24 hours if close contact with a friend suffering with a fever now.  Her little brother was dx'd with Covid a couple days ago.

I worry we have it/are carrying it, mostly bc contractor hasn't been vaccinated and he's been in our space.  Heavy smoker.....coughs often on his best days, Lordy....could go so badly.

P, you honor your SIL in the way you're u need to.  You're free to walk away from rages, name calling, raised voice.... you're free to say you'll be available in an hour or whatever time you set....a day.....but you'll remove yourself if your stated boundary is crossed again.

Then follow through by removing yourself, without emotional upset.  Just be sorry W is dealing with consequences of his sad choices, but it's up to him.  You have no control over him or his choices.  You only control yourself. 
There's relief in accepting those facts, ime.

Lighter

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