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Hopalong:
WHEW.
I am so glad to hear it, Tupp.
As to the politics and news, I'm with you in
taking full breaks from it all. You just can't
absorb the feelings of injustice along with the
actual biological realities of protecting yourself.
It's too much.
So I am so so so glad you have food adequate for a while.
It has to be hard on you and son.
I hope you can continue to place food orders as often
as you can until the cupboards are full. Dehydrating
veggies and fruits in the cooker at low heat is one good
way to put things by.....
You are a pioneer woman, that you are.
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on March 24, 2020, 10:28:43 AM ---WHEW.
I am so glad to hear it, Tupp.
As to the politics and news, I'm with you in
taking full breaks from it all. You just can't
absorb the feelings of injustice along with the
actual biological realities of protecting yourself.
It's too much.
So I am so so so glad you have food adequate for a while.
It has to be hard on you and son.
I hope you can continue to place food orders as often
as you can until the cupboards are full. Dehydrating
veggies and fruits in the cooker at low heat is one good
way to put things by.....
You are a pioneer woman, that you are.
hugs
Hops
--- End quote ---
Lol, I felt like a flaky pastry woman earlier, Hops, I think everything caught up with me a bit. So much happening but much of it soooo inadequate and all happening too late. But - nothing I can do about that on a personal level. I think as well it was lack of food - I didn't eat much yesterday as I was worried about not being able to get anything today so I'd saved it for son. That doesn't help, plus I'm due on, plus was up at 5 again for another early morning shop run so I think it all caught up with me. But - we have food in now and more coming tomorrow. I've got a list of all the local places that are either delivering or will box things up for people to collect so I should be able to sort things out a bit more easily now. I think part of the problem is that everyone is suddenly having to deal with a very big changes to routine and it is hard, you get your own little groove going and suddenly the wheels don't fit any more and you have to create a new path. But I feel more settled now, just knowing there's enough in for him is good. I'm very, very glad now I ordered in vitamins and herbal stuff before all this happened. I've had a bath, I'm going to sort myself something to eat and watch a film - feet up and relax this afternoon. Son is very happy upstairs writing his novel and was very excited that he received a text message from the government urging him to stay inside :) Lol.
One thing I am struggling with is an overwhelming urge to contact everyone to check they're okay. All the people I've not spoken to for years - my mum, my estranged sisters, nieces and nephews, old friends I haven't heard from in years, current friends I've not heard from in a long time. I'm resisting - none of them have contacted me for years now and haven't reached out during this crisis and I know if I get back in touch I will only set myself up to get hurt again. So I'm resisting but I am struggling with it. It just sort of goes against my nature and that makes me feel uncomfortable xx
Hopalong:
I do understand....your nature is loving!
But I also understand that you might add pain to the situation if it brings back those old feelings of non-reciprocity. Those friends would also have similar opportunities right now to be thinking about checking on YOU. And if they don't, then maybe "past friends" is a better term. Re-experiencing hurt you've already processed won't help.
I hope there's a few nice people where you live now, anyone you've got a number for, that you might call and say, "I'm just calling to hear a friendly voice. I don't have a lot of local contacts since I'm at home so much. How are all this going for you?". Then you could have a positive social conversation, however brief, and feel as though even though more isolated than many, you ARE still a human part of this human community you are in at the present. Someone you call might be so pleased to just be able to vent what they're dealing with in the moment. (Don't forget you don't need to give advice or fix it. Just a nice listen, with some "Wow, that is really tough" kinds of responses.)
I think just sharing moments, checking in, even without a lot of practicality to the conversation, is really valuable for people right now.
GLAD you're feeling better than yesterday and relaxing a bit now, Tupp. And your son is so cute. Whoopee! A text from the government!
He's adorable. And writing a novel...what a fantastic person.
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
The stress finally broke me today. Bawled my eyes out.
It's over; moving on now.
lighter:
I'm so relieved you got food in, Tupp. So scary, and difficult and heartbreaking with the triage information going out..... must keep ds safe. I picture a different world than the one where a violent predator is saved over sweet lovely boys with disabilities.
Make sure you have a splash shield on, and ds too, when you go out. You can make them out of those plastic page protectors taped to glasses. Masks with many layers..... vids have lots of ideas. Some as easy as taping paper towels together. I have stuff OUT to make these things, just not put together yet. I feel as though I'm stuck in mud.
On the internet, I saw an Asian man with a comforter bag over him and a baby in a chest carrier. Honestly, the idea of making crazy protective gear, that brings a smile to someone's face, makes me feel better. DD17 said she'll paint something funny on whatever splach guard I end up using and I'm cool with that.
::patting Amber's back::. It goes in and out of focus, I know. Just giving in to the tears helps, IME.
We have a 5 way chat with Ohio cousins going on. One of cousin's dd's was assaulted by her exbf and cousin seeking a protective order. Lots of terrifying things going on with everything else and honestly... I think this stress is breaking people who might have been holding it together otherwise.
Lighter
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