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My Stepdaughter the Narcissist
lighter:
Hi bean:
Babies don't need to be punished or spanked or tapped......they certainly shouldn't be beaten.
Beating children is a crime.
Beating any human is a crime.
Beating a baby..... renders me speechless. I don't feel calling DFACS is the answer, and neither is chatting with someone who beats a child.
That's a tough tough impossibly difficult problem. Perhaps talking with the father of these babies would be the better route, if you speak to anyone about it at all.
I'm from a place where gaining a child's cooperation is good parenting.
Where discipline is teaching a child to do better.
Where punishment is about a parent transferring aggression and ignorance, bc they don't know how to parent better than that.
Lighter
bean2:
Hi all,
just checking in
My stepdaughter the narcissist officially disowned us. Honestly, it's a relief. I told my husband, "you'll still get hate texts" and "we'll see her in 6 months, same as before."
The text she sent my husband yesterday said this. This text was in response to a 6 minute video my husband sent her saying she cannot give him an ultimatum to leave me, he isn't going to tolerate her abuse anymore, and we are not going to "hate" people she hates: "You will never see me or my kids ever again and this is on you."
The reason I say it's a relief is because I'm old. I'm tired. I don't have the energy to deal with her abusive outbreaks. She berates my husband and it hurts him. I hate to see him suffering.
Anyway, just thought I'd check in and give ya'll a staus. Will read all your replies soon.
HUGS
bean
Twoapenny:
(((((((Bean))))))))
I would be relieved as well. I expect sadness will come at some point - family ties, or at least our desire for family ties, are strong. So it may be that you both feel sad about this as well. But yes, relief would be my over-riding emotion if I were in your shoes and I know, in my own shoes, that the relief I don't have to deal with my mum every day, is huge. I am sorry though, it's hard when people's behaviour makes it too difficult for us to be around them. Big hugs to you and hubby xx
lighter:
I'm sorry you and your dh are struggling with that chaos, Bean.
Where is the other sd standing in this?
Lighter
bean2:
Thank you for asking lighter. We still have not heard from the other stepdaughter. I suspect she's thinking if she doesn't side with her sister, her sister will rage at her next.
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