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My Stepdaughter the Narcissist

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lighter:
bean:

What I loved about your last post was....
it was focused on you.

I think that's exactly where it should be. 
 
Well done. 

Little reminders.....
Be present with young you, adult protective you, the you who can breathe yourself off the ledge and the you who runs and runs to be able to breathe calmly again.

Sometimes I just can't focus on my breath.... I have to push on walls or walk backward around a trash can.... DO something, bc being chased by a tiger doesn't allow me to calmly breathe when I'm trapped in my survival mode.  Most of the time I can shift my breathing and just DO it, but it's good to remember.... sometimes we have to ACT before we can shift focus to the breath.

And through it all we try to remember.....
complete and utter self-compassion....
laser-focused, non-judgmental attention on what we feel in the body....
embrace everything with curiosity......
and listen for what comes next.

I'm glad you came back to the board: )

Lighter

bean2:
just wanted to say I'm still here, just been focusing on me.  no new news on the step-daughter front

bean

Hopalong:
So glad you are here, and being loving to the little girl inside you, Bean.
That's wonderful. Actually it's huge.

I get the feeling you also have a wonderful husband:


--- Quote ---I think most people are hurting
--- End quote ---

Flat-out empathy. It was lovely to read about him saying that.

hugs
Hops

bean2:
OK, tough day for me, I need some reminders to take care of the little girl Bean

long story short, my husband met with his oldest daughter today

she's not ready to see me, she is still mad at me and is talking to her sister everyday.

I guess we know where she stands

ugh

I am having serious abandonment feelings and anxiety like a 9 on a scale of 1 to 10

Also, thinking something is wrong with me  :(

what do you do to soothe yourself when the world seemlingly feels like it's crashing down?  and I know this would be a good time to try mindfulness!!

bean

Hopalong:
I'm not saying these are good ideas, Bean...but an honest answer to what I do is:

--more escapist TV (often on dark subjects like crime documentaries, for perspective)

--drink another beer (and I'm at my heaviest so that's clearly not brilliant)

--take ashwagandha

--talk babytalk to my pooch and get in touch with how good loving feels

--call a friend who's able to listen to distress

--make an extra therapy appointment if I'm really spiraling

--come here and vent over and over (which you're doing....good!)

I'm sorry you're feeling caught in an emotional storm and hope it soon passes.

Hugs
Hops

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