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Hopalong:
My two cents:
I think the most important thing for your girls about that time of life, is not to make them contemplate it at all right now. This is a very scary time, and to be walked through a narrative of your death could be really disturbing for them.

As they get older, when death comes about in those they know, or someone's terminally ill, you could give them info about different ways of being buried and tell them which one you'd prefer. But keeping it simple simple simple.... And giving them a choice. Suggesting to them that they dig your grave sounds like it might be a harrowing assignment, depending completely on who they are as individuals.

My experience with death was very intimate and very different from my D's. She did not want the intimate connection to it at all, the idea overwhelmed her. She was the same about her grandfather's and her father's death.

Are they both bold warrior women like you? Maybe one would be into it and the other not.

hugs
Hops

Twoapenny:
You can arrange and pre-pay everything here, Lighter - can you do that there?  Means no-one has to deal with anything - you organise and pay for it all in advance, as long as someone (or maybe more than one person) has the details of the policy somewhere it's just one phone call and the funeral directors do everything.  No-one digs graves here other than the grave diggers employed by the graveyard - is that not the case over there?  I've written what I want in to my will.  I don't want a load of fuss and I most particularly don't want a load of people who've not bothered for years turning up and wailing.  I've never been able to understand why people go to the funeral of someone they've made no effort for while they were living.

There was a funny (I thought it was funny; it was quite poor taste) of an old lady over here who attended all the wakes at her local church hall and helped herself to the free buffet.  Apparently she did if for fourteen years and no-one ever said anything because there's always people you don't know at a funeral.  It was reported that the vicar did have a word with her about it but she said she felt it was her duty to attend in order to represent the local community and pay respects on their behalf.  Lol, it just made me chuckle when I read it.  Some people! x

lighter:
Tup:

Remember the movie Harold and Maude?  I just LOVED that movie. 

How they both attended funerals of people they didn't know, for different reasons, but still... doing the same thing?

Here's a scene from the movie.  Now, if M could assume the quiet curiosity of Harold here... and Hops felt free to be Hops... the focus, for just a while.   

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BLP5I2xFSwQ&list=TLPQMDYwNzIwMjD2f3Dk36VRWw&index=2

Lighter


Hopalong:
Ahhh, quiet curiosity.
From the noisy, self-focused M.

It's a lovely dream!

Since we're on this thread I could just
plan how to bury him in my back yard
once I get fed up and whack him with a
skillet.

:)

lighter:
Handful of mushroom spores.
About 3 feet deep.

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