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lighter:
Tabouli, YUM!

Waiting for the desire to match up to our motivation and vision.....
priceless. 

Being still isn't doing nothing, Hops. 

Viewing it as "sloth" or "lazyness" makes things harder, creates more suffering, slows the mission, IME.

Focusing on ONLY helpful things....to the exclusion of UNhelpful things....
being kind to ourselves, patient.... waiting for energy and purpose to arrive, rather than wasting precious energy and synapsis on judging and internal voice tracks we'd do well to banish entirely.....
THAT.

Lighter

Meh:
Maybe some people have more energy and others less for reasons beyond our understanding.

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: Garbanzo on August 02, 2020, 10:21:55 PM ---Maybe some people have more energy and others less for reasons beyond our understanding.

--- End quote ---

I think that sums it up perfectly, G, we're all so different, find some things easy, some things not so much.  I'm good at sorting, not good at telling people how I feel or boundaries.  Hopsie is the world leader at boundary setting and saying her peace clearly, just needs someone to organise stuff for her :)  And not for the first time, I wish I lived over there because I'd love sorting out your clutter, Hops :)

Skep, I love that idea of the clothes swap; I used to do that with friends when I was younger and it was great.  Through the lockdown I've been leaving bits out on the step with a sign saying, "Free - help yourself" and it's all gone.  Plus I got some really cute thank you cards from the kids down the road who took some of my son's old toys, it was lovely :) xx

sKePTiKal:
Honestly, there is something big & important in those clothes party swaps Tupp. It's an idea.

Clothes are often an expression of our identities; at least the bits we want to show the world. It's like those characteristics used to describe people's personalities: cheerful, compassionate, helpful, contained, strong, quirky, etc. Swapping those back & forth with other people is almost like sharing those inner traits... kind of a way to say:

"Oh? you need a little of Lighter's sorting power? Here's some that fits... I'll trade X amount for your ability to put complex feelings into words". You want to trade me some peaceful flow for my stubborn, hard-headed persistence? Here ya go..."

Ideally, this is something we do here. I know Hops' "release the outcome" has been added to my stash of valuable goodies. One of my favorites ways of dealing with frustrating impasses. Maybe she'll take on a little my ability to take a big job that requires more physical strength than I've got... and chunk it down to what is manageable; accepting that it'll take more time BUT it WILL get done.

Hopalong:
Nobody envies my clothes, but I've been given quite a few nice things from friends. I enjoy those surprises, even when they don't suit! (We give each other stuff with the caveat--pass it on if it's not for you.)

I favor natural fabrics, relaxed drape, neutral OR jewel tones. Pastels make me disappear (white hair, pale skin, etc.). I still fit into most Mediums but often pick Large for comfort.

Have fun swapping! I bet Hol has a great feel for texture and color.

hugs
Hops

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