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Hopalong:
I got air filters designed for old-style registers on Amazon, hope you can find some.
You can just tape filter material however you come by it over them...
Even breathing with a damp facecloth draped over your nose might help?
UGH. So sorry you are going through this. On top of Covid!!
The video is shocking, the whole fire scene is too.
Yep, after working with those old folks, most of whom had serious pain of one kind or another, I recognized their endurance.
We shall endure emotional pain, physical pain, social pain, cultural pain.......and as my old Latin professor friend said so memorably:
....every generation finds a way to assimilate the horrors with which it is presented, and there will always, always be human happiness.
Sometimes I think we just need to keep limping until one day we realize our stride has loosened. Emotionally or otherwise.
Hang in there, wear that mask...hope you can get lost in the concentration of the work.
hugs
Hops
PS--Ever felt like this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dSNEzXJfxw
Meh:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/the-mysteries-love/201611/parental-attachment-problems
Hopalong:
Posh, I like your new name a lot! :)
My T told me M had insecure attachment. She never said what kind I have, or don't. Maybe I'll remember to ask her Wednesday.
Has the air cleared up for you. You were about to wear a bucket on your head it sounded so bad.
Hope you're feeling some peace or hearing a rumor of peace, within yourself. (A valuable and interesting region to explore, imo. Nothing wasted about you.)
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
Posh... I like it! Lord knows, you have an abundance of "certain" things in your life (like we all do).
I wanted to say, tho - I highly commend your wish to simply write or say out loud things to recognize your self. According to some traditions, "naming" something is quite powerful. It helps one raise a level of energy, direct it toward a desired goal... or release something you don't want to keep around cluttering up your brain or emotions.
I know it sounds kinda silly; like a kid's game. But it can't HURT anything now can it? IMO, it's no different than an affirmation. And who knows? maybe with repetition it'll sink into your subconscious and tweak the fine-tuning on how you see things over time?
Meh:
Hello Hops,
Hello Skep,
Thanks I don't know how I came up with that name but scab mite seemed too melodramatic. Now this one is too long but at least it's specific.
Hops, we must all have insecure attachment, some variety of it. Some people say statistics are BS, the article mentioned something like 40% of people might have insecure attachment, take it with a grain of salt. It's always food for thought. It's clear how two people with variations on insecure attachments could really have some challenges. Recently a fellow student asked me a question on the subconscious mind and how it impacts language (a question I can't answer with authority). So this morning at 4 am I was thinking about that, of course the whole thing of "subconscious" seems controversial and it coincides with the ideas of hypnosis.
The word subconscious conjures up lots of ideas and I think people use it in relation to concepts like mind control. But it's always interesting just to consider what a person is aware of and what a person is not aware of. The problem is WE DONT KNOW WHAT we are not aware of!!! :) hahahaha
So I was now just thinking about insecure attachment and how BEFORE we learned of the term we didn't even know it was a real thing. When a person knows it's a real thing it can still cause problems. Just KNOWING is not the same as being aware on all levels and that is freaky- to worry about how one can still be controlled by the past.
Thanks Skep. I've been feeling busy and bogged down and I haven't been writing here too much. I've heard of "naming" things but I don't know much about it. To go on SKEP I don't think it's silly. This naming idea. There are so many things because we can't see it people call it silly.
I don't think I'm interested in changing "how I see things" though. The idea of changing how you see things has come from the outside. It must come out of therapists who want to change people. If there is something inside me that can be changed I think it will be changed from the inside out :)
Mostly I'm not trying to change anything anymore. I can't recall a time where I've ever been able to impact a change on myself. IF something changes it does so on it's own and it's not easy or pleasant. When I found this site I was in a serious depression but I also think there were a lot of realizations I was having as well. I think it goes back to that we don't know what we don't know.
Theoretically I'm going to work and try to be productive now. You know now that it's after dinner time. bwa haha
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