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lighter:
Watching the show Escape To The Chateau is giving me lots of enthusiasm for finishing the Lake Lodge. I loved the dining room lined with little pine trees...... the table set witih little logs and forest items at different levels....lots of fresh pine boughs.
We bought warm gray resin adirondack chairs for around the fire pit and on the dock. CHECK.
The fire pit needs to be built before fall weather and rentals begin in October.... I figure the third week, if all goes well.
We're attempting to dye some of the bedding we have and or order amazing bedding from society6.com. The large prints are amazing..... love them.
We'll drive a lifesize angel back with us.... for the upstairs master room with a bit of a ship's theme. She'll likely go over the bed with some drapes on either side....nothing for sure yet,. but very exciting.
The herringbone LVP should be delivered for in front of the fireplace in the upstairs LR. I'd love to do the entire downstairs in the stuff... it's on sale. It's just gorgeous and so on point. Huge and amazing pattern.
The realtor who had a contract on the lodge (fell through)will touch base when I get back to town. She has amazing taste and I want her input.
This year we do Thanksgiving at the lake..... will chop wood and make more walking sticks... BIL cuts them to exactly match our heights so we know who's is who's, lol. So beatiful.
The contractor's wife said to keep the garage as our owner's space and let the guests have every interior closet. I like that idea very much.
I don';t agree the piano should be moved to the second floor and pool table moved upstairs...nope nope nope. Not happening to me.
I finished staining and distressing the 5.5" crown moulding for the kitchen cabinets... numbered them according to which are most desirable for long runs and which to cut up for the short cuts. Feel good about that and the flooring choice just off the kitchen, whic butts up brick pavers, golden oak hardoods and warm gray and beige stone on the fireplace surrounded by Pecky Cypress walls and ceilings.... golden as well.
Piano will be easier to wheel around on LVP. Feeling really good about it.
I cooked ahead for the contractor, his wife, MIL and friend who's heading to Stroke Camp the contractor runs. Friend can't do stairs. We left every bed clean and made beautifully..... I'll send instructions and photos of the food right before they arrive.
The final plumbing will get done in the third upstairs bathroom September 19, then he can do the crown, the flooring, if it arrives on time, and maybe bring deck rails up to code. Still trying to find a supplier for pipe fittings to add 4 inches to the height.... will add more 2"x2" cedar pickets to match what's already there... have a great source for lumber and trim.
Have to figure out the rest of the baseboards and ceiling trim...... won't be too hard. Just takes time.
Will add trim to the top of the front door and paint it all to match..... make it a statement. Need to change lighting on the front porch and add some beams to dress up exterior.
The landscape needs to be addressed. Not sure how that's going to get solved, but refuse to worry about it. My brother will handle it. I have no doubt.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
How do you keep track of all the different projects, Lighter? Have you got notebooks with everything written down or do you just remember it all? Amazing stuff xx
lighter:
I have SO MANY NOTEBOOKS, Tupp! And I just found a few I forgot about......in a file.... with measurements on all the kitchen cabinets contractor and I measured in the heat today. I felt like my wheels were coming off for a while there.
I'm not doing a great job keeping up with the different projects at the moment. My sister and I were working 18 hour days pulling one of our brother's properties together for rental....... and it's almost done, but not quite. Had to run back home, pick up a different journeyman and jump back into this lake project.... was messy, bc I didn't have time to prepare. I felt like I was spinning part of the day, but we hammered out some projects to finish, begin and not tackle, then went on a materials run.
I have to tell you..... we brainstormed how to hang a 5' tall Angel over the master bed this evening. As tiring and frantic as this can be... there's creativity and discovery and amazing outcomes too. My brain gets dopamine from this kind of work and I don't see myself putting it down anytime soon.
Brother has another property wer'e pulling together next. Bedding and accessories are falling into place..... almost like magic, which is helpful. We're figuring out our strengths and communicating better. Learning each other's weaknesses too. Being gentle and stepping around rather than judging and lashing out. Brother just said to me... "it took my almost 60 years to grow up." It's a happy time, but frantic with a pretty good journeyman working at brother's properties.... found him at Home Depot last week.
I'm planning a huge Halloween this year..... what do you and DS have planned?
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Your brother's comments about taking sixty years to grow up made me smile, Lighter. I think it can take a lifetime to undo all that childhood stuff that sets us on paths that maybe aren't right for us. I get why some people never do it. I've been finding I can be more detached with people, like you say, less judgement, softer acceptance. I realised my codependence/bossy attitude stems from childhood. I tried to protect my siblings from our parents in the same way I protected myself, by being what I knew they wanted and not being myself. I realised I'm still quick to judge my siblings when they do things wrong, in the same way I was when I was a child. It's fear, it comes from that place, and to a certain extent it's still real. My sister just had another ridiculous man in her life, 0 - 60 in three days flat, more or less moved in with her and the kids straight away. Her inability to protect her children is there, I think, it shows in the way she gets so involved with men she barely knows and expects the kids to do so as well. So I think fear and concern is genuine, although also coming from the past. But - she did kick him out the first time he got aggressive which is progress. I've tried really hard to focus on that and not berate her for letting him move in so quickly anyway. Hopefully the next step will be she gets to know them away from the kids rather than trying to create that instant family.
Anyway, I've digressed :) I think there is good stress - like the projects you do, figuring out where to put things, how to get things organised, buying what's needed - and it's a nice healthy way to keep the body and mind popping. Thank goodness for notebooks lol x
lighter:
I'm playing hookie for 10 minutes.... this contractor tends to sit down if I'm not working WITH him, which is annoying.
As he's bolting beams in place, to hold the angel art installation in place, I'm wishing you were here to enjoy the process! We went to the out building to look for corbels but found beams looking like they're from a shipwreck. Almost perfect in length for what we're doing....holding the bottom of the angel in place.
We have 2 huge, very old arched window frames butted together to make an almost 6foot tall oval.... it's spendid! Looks very shippy. I'll figure out how to send pics.... I hope.
Good for your sister.... shoving the man out the door the first time he was agressive. That never gets better, IME. She seems to be learning and I pray her children are safe.
Dropping judgment, for me, limits suffering. The other half of that equation is embracing curiosity, bc it leads to understanding, altering habits and stepping around old habits. I feels like I'm entering a new space with enough clean air to breath easy. Fresh and new..... the weight of old thinking and reactivity dropping away, bit by bit.
Lighter
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