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The Lake House
lighter:
Back at the lake house. Tile going up in a bathroom....looks good.
Realtor called sib and made a really high offer on behalf of hot to trot gal investors who had a deal fall through on a property much smaller than this one, bc they couldn't split it up and build. I've met this realtor a couple times, gone to see her lake house....I had a feeling she'd bring us a good buyer/offer. I told her I thought she would.
I just keep working in the renovation. It feels really good....sort of working meditation if this is such a thing.
I could let it all go..... I'm not tied to it. I could build and grow a business....I wonder what my brother will think.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
No doubt in my mind you could take on a business Lighter, and do well. What kind of thing do you have in mind?
lighter:
Amber:
My brother fell in love with a non profit my niece worked with...... a horse farm for special needs children. She worked with the horses and children.
He's applied for the non profit status... will take about a year. There would be barracks housing, a military kitchen.... petting zoon... a large gathering space..... this house,which is in no way hadicap friendly,btw.
So, both sibs have OK'd the selling price mentioned by the realtor. I textd her last night to go ahead with the contract. She responded this morning she'll let me know what her clients say.
I had a wonderful morning.... very focused on doing things I love... moving through the space, taking measurements to calm and please myself, rather than problem solve in the moment. Just touching, enjoying, noticing little things I usually don't have time or focus to notice.
Letting my inner toddler play, I think.
Contractor putting in a second row of 12x24"tiles.....and he's very proud of it, I realize.
I've been moving through my morning focused on myself. Contractor came into the kitchen sayinghe'd makehimself at home and get a glass of water. I said that was fine, get ice.
He couldn't find a glass,but I think he wanted my attention.I got him a plastic insulated cup. He wanted meto take the lid off. I did,then just got him the water, which I felt was a bit odd.....and he excitedly said "come look!" Like a child.
He explained laying the tile vertically created challenges with regard to imperfections in the edges....... we discussed how it looked a bit commercial.....bounced thelight around the room nicely...... he explained howhe finished edges or will finish them...how the math was worked out.... pros and cons of that math, which is great,bc I learn too and understand the process more fully.
And what I got out of that, besides re connection with contractor, was how cofortable he IS with people with poor and innapropriate boundaries.
Not that I'm a boundary stomper,but I DO comment on food and health issues like PAIN FREE Egoscue method, etc. I bought him a book. I chat with himabout his wife's prescriptive food choices and gains in health to a degree most people wouldn't, IMO.
And that's his comfort zone. No doubt he was raised without boundaries and senses healthy boundaries as something uncomfortable. I sure used to, myself. I didn't understand why I felt it, or what it was exactly, but I was uncomfortable around the most "normal" people........yet yearning to be closer to them. Not understanding how that worked or why I couldn't seem to DO it, be normal........and here I am.....noticing it with the contractor.
I'll feed us both lunch and catch up. He's been on vacation in Florida. He was excited my last text to him was Get your passports, along with the Island cottage website. I'll renovate the guest cottage next,likely make it into a bunkhouse, bc "caretaker" renter isn't keeping the yard as well as I'd like, or feeling responsible enough. My brother paid him for some work and I commented....."Must be nice to be paid to live in the guest house for free." Brother laughed......it's true and it's not going to work for me forever.
I also would like to be able to stay in the guest house when we have guests and I'm on the island. Maybe I'll live there for 3 months out of the year and offer bed and breakfast or cooked meals, childcare....... I just don't know,but the caretaker isn't wearing enough hats for the real estate he takes up. He might have to share and I wonder what that would look like, or if he'd still be in the picture at all.
I'll post more about that on the Island thread.
In the meantime I'll see how contractor and I get through lunch. We get along so well. I don't see that changing,based on my current mental space and happy bouncing along with the renovation.
If the house sells, which I don't think about much, it sells.
If we keep a lot and build or just hold it.... we do that.
I think the entire thing would go, but I have no expectations for that outcome.
I half think another buyer will come along AFTER the entire renovation is done. Not sure why, but I feel that's in the cards. Maybe it;s just my inner toddler holding on to the pleasure of creating new very safe feeling/smelling space to enjoy herself and with family?
Maybe I'm holding on to the GET IT DONE energy, myself?
Lighter
Hopalong:
I'm confused...
Are you selling the lake house to that equine-based nonprofit?
Are you and your brother wanting to start a new nonprofit there of your own?
I just didn't make the segue to what it all means.
Densely,
Hops
lighter:
Sorry, Hops. It's confusing.
Brother wants to start a non profit based on what he's learning from someone who has the kind of non profit my brother is interested in.
Since the house isn't being renovated to ADA compliance, I have the feeling this property is destined for something else, but it will be an option my brother is creating possibility for. He can SEE that come to fruition. It appeals to me tremendously too.
Lighter
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