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Bettyanne:
Just asking......
Have any of you been on the website

OUT of the Fog

outofthefog.website

I have found somethings, interesting on there like Narcissistic and Borderline personalities explainedB


See what you think.......Bettyanne

Hopalong:
I've been there, Bettyanne.

I think that website is very bracing, especially when one is first uncovering all these diagnoses (and as Lighter says, discovering what "PDs" are).

Personality Disorders.

Glad you found it and hope it helps you.

hugs
Hops

Bettyanne:
Hops my therapist recommended it to me?
Just wanted to see what you and the other members thought of it?
I found it sure explained my NM......
but my NM was a control freak.......
I just had long conversation with T about it......
I realize she/NM  did a lot of damage to me....I was too young to defend myself and I was brainwashed too???
Well....with Bill gone now I need to figure out which roads I need to go and down and NM is one to avoid....
Thanks
Bettyanne

lighter:
I think you'll find a wonderful group of supportive people who've experienced similar issues on Out Of The Fog forum, Bettyanne.  Tell your story.  Read a lot of other people's stories who've been where you are and come out the other side.

You'll be as safe there as you are here.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
I can't remember for sure if I visited on that forum Bettyanne. I explored a lot of them, at the beginning of my journey. Mostly just reading other people's stories until I felt comfortable enough to talk myself. The value of even just reading for me, was realizing that what I went through isn't so strange, weird or rare after all. I felt less like it was my fault I was treated that way... and started to study, do my homework.

I've read so many professional articles, papers, even PhD theses when I could access them... and all those stories... over the years. It taught me an essential skill too. It taught me ways to think - vocabulary, theories, processes - about all the things I felt so intensely; knew in my feelings so intimately that eventually I began to be able to describe that part of myself. I hid all that far far away from other people because I was so ashamed. It was only years later that I finally figured out it wasn't anything I did or was responsible for that created that shame.

I was feeling shame for people who didn't feel it themselves. And because I didn't own it; I hadn't done the bad thing in the first place -- it could never be fixed. Well, IMO, that just WASN'T FAIR. So I learned how - in my own mind & feelings - to "give it back" to the people who did the things they should've been ashamed of.

Maybe you'll find your own buried treasure in other people's stories. Those bits & pieces that ring out like a clear bell - YES; I know JUST what you're talking about! Those are the things that resonate. And figuring out "what, if anything, to do about it" is much easier with several brains working through it, than just the one. They at least help you choose the path that's best for you to move on from where you are - to where you want to be.

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