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Phyll:
Hello,

A friend of mine told me about this website.  I found registration was closed so I wrote to Richard to ask about it.  As I told him, I recently became aware of my affinity for the narcissists in my life.  In my experience with AA over the last 32 + years I found sharing personal stories with other recovering people essential to maintaining my sobriety.  On June 7 I had a hip replacement.  My recovery was interrupted by fevers, pain, fatigue and rashes which turned out to be Lyme's disease.  I am now on the mend.  What I realized during this time is that my spouse seems to be incapable of empathy. 

I am aware I can only change myself.  I need your experience strength and hope to learn how to cope, and ensure my needs are met.  I realize yours may be a tight knit group who have known each other for some time.  I am optimistic my participation might also bring something new to your discussions.

Phyll

Twoapenny:
Hi, Phyll,

It's lovely to see a new face!  Welcome :)  I'm so sorry to hear you've had such a tough time with your hip and Lyme's as well.  I'm glad you're on the mend, but sorry you've discovered a lack of empathy in your spouse during that time.  It's hard when we realise the people we love aren't able to give us (some) of the things we need, particularly when we're going through tough times ourselves.  Many of us on here have had similar experiences :) Well done on the many years of sobriety, it sounds as if you have traveled many roads.

Feel free to dive in and start reading threads, or starting your own.  We'd love to know more about your experiences, if and when you feel able to tell.  You might find some of the threads jump around a bit; many of us have been on here for years so we often know about previous things that have happened - feel free to ask about anything that doesn't make sense :)

I'm really glad you're here and hope you find sharing experiences here helpful and an aid to your further recovery.  I always learn more from other people so I'm looking forward to hearing more from you (but only as much as you're comfortable with - no pressure).  Personally this group has saved me over and over again.  Warm friendships with people I've never met in real life - it's a situation that's both odd and lovely at the same time.

Welcome!

Love, Tupp xx

Hopalong:
Welcome, Phyll--
I hope we're able to help and support you in what you're going through.

Would you like to tell us more about it?
It's all in our stories and anecdotes, really, plus a commitment
to repairing/healing what's broken or damaged in ourselves and supporting each other in the same. And, of course, spotting narcissists a mile away!

One advantage you have is that you can read back as far as you're inspired to, for a better idea of the situations each of us are in and how we're moving forward. Or where we're feeling stuck.

Look forward to hearing your own story, Phyll. As detailed as you'd like to be.

Warmly
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Hi Phyll, pull up a seat around our bonfire. Sounds like you've been experiencing an "insult to injury" time, with the hip then Lyme's.

A former SIL of mine, had a very long & bad time with Lyme. So I know a fair amount about it. Thankfully, everyone reacts differently and experiences different degrees of severity and type of symptoms. May you have a less serious case!

Twoapenny (Tupp) is right that we'll be interested to get to know you, as you have energy to tell us about yourself. I think the regulars here, kinda have a reflex to help. LOL. But we also have a "take it if helps, if it doesn't - ignore it" philosophy about that.

lighter:
Hi, Phyll:

Do you have children?  If so, how are they doing?

My oldest DD20 has a Lyme's Disease dx.  How did your diagnosis happen? 

Welcome and I hope you heal up quickly🌞

Lighter

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