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Phyll:
Was not sure where to put this update. This looks like as good of a place as any. I have not been as active on here lately, although I have kept up on reading posts. I have joined AlAnon on-line with a sponsor, and started therapy (also on-line - virtual visits). Doing okay. Have to run, will write more soon.
Hopalong:
Bravo, Phyl!
Both your decisions--to participate in Alanon with a sponsor and with therapy.
Those're huge. You sounds to me like a woman who WANTS wholeness and the chance to be happy or find a serene life. You deserve all of that. It's hard work but so worth it.
Hope we'll hear an update when you can. Sending you support.
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
Hey Phyll, how's it goin?
Phyll:
The ups are outweighing the downs, so that's something! The AlAnon participation helps, doing more with my Women's AA meeting, and I really click with the therapist! I feel mutual respect and understanding from both the AlAnon sponsor and the therapist. The experiences have added more tools to my tool box.
The downs come mostly through W, however I get a sense he tries to do better from time to time, and I am learning how to not make his moods determine my outlook on life.
Also, one year from the initial attack by our neighbor this month, W has completely fenced in our 6.7 acres + a fenced in side yard. This has been a project of major proportions and W did it in a way that the fence should last beyond our years (with repairs as needed from fallen trees or wandering bears). It looks nice too. We are able to walk with our dogs on our trails off leash and let them out at night in the dark free from worry of intruders - both 2 and 4 legged kind. The deer of course have no trouble hopping over the 4 foot high fences, but that is okay so long as they clear it without banging into it.
We also have a new security system with wiring in buried conduit so the red squirrels cannot chew through the wires. It all may seem to others a bit silly and possibly paranoid. With the political climate these days - I can see things like fights between neighbors occurring on a more frequent and vicious scale. I think we may have experienced civil unrest sooner than some others. I dunno - it is hard to stay optimistic.
Thank you for asking and for your continued interest in me. I need to get caught up in seeing what is happening with you - been a week since I got on here!
am not convinced
lighter:
I'm glad to read your update, P. I hope you're staying in contact with your family. You seemed so happy to spend time with them. I hope that continues.
Your security measures sound solid, considering the neighbor's unstable behaviours, imo.
You did what you could, then turned back to joy
It's perfectly logical, ime..
Lighter
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