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lighter:
I can't take care of my hair when it grows to a certain length. Typically, as I did this time last year, I wash it, pulled it around front and lop off about 9 inches. Usually I when twist it into a top knot, which you can find illustrated on Youtube by many many people. My hands are expert at twisting everything up in a couple seconds then BAM. Done. Easy peasy, but it rats at the scalp, nape and sides of my head..... just too long to care for that or anything, really.
So... that said.... I spent a few hours yesterday building maginficant towers of braids.... one verticle. One at the back of my head where I the head rest would hit, if I left it in, which i have not. I didn't have things mapped out well enough, and realize it's beyond my ability right now. That's OK. Better to know than keep wondering what if and doing nothing,IME.
I lived with the towers for 12 hours and, depending on the pov, laughed, was overtly concerned at times, then found clarity about what I do and don't like about it, so I can ask someone to help me figure it out when I'm ready to do that.
My brain and fingers don't know the language of braids, esp backwards in a mirror... just too much to master in a day or after hours of watching videos, which I've done on and off through the years. I have many many pictures of things I cannot do. My brother's dd could do it. I wonder if a neighborhood teen would be willing to work outside for money in this time of Covid? Maybe teach me something I can handle on my own.
It's just time to DO it. What marvelous chaos I'm capable of with braided fake dread locks and a bunch of 11 year old tiny hair ties breaking all the time, bc I fished them out of the lice kit I put together in 2010, along with other hair clips I just never bought for myself, bc lack of interest.
I'm going to buy little clear white tiny hair rubber bands that aren't crunchy.
Splurging, I am; )
To the bath, now I have my hair down and ready for travel.
A trip to Lowes on my way out of town,with the pug, then down the mountain.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Well, long shag haircuts are coming back in Lighter. And there's no reason you can't have it cut shortER, without the layers, if that's what you like. Viking braiding is a thing now, too. You might could find someone to do it for you to see if it'll work...
but I suspect you just don't want to bother with your hair most of the time. I can relate. I'm going with a longer bob - anywhere between chin and shoulders, depending on how soon my appt is. It will pull back - and cloth headbands and hair wraps are your friend.
Phyll:
My hair is now longer than it has ever been. I have not mastered the muscle memory necessary to create nice looking braids. I pretty much tie it back in a tail or to the side. While in jury duty one of the women who was older than I put my hair in a bun for me, but I cannot replicate that... my hair is very thick and heavy. At this point I am just seeing how long I can keep this COVID hairstyle going.
lighter:
I cut my hair about shoulder length in 2009. It felt like i was punched in the gut every time i looked in the mirror. It wasn't me i was looking at. It was as stranger and she's in all the holiday pictures too.... and it's still a gut punch. I can't even remember who cut it, or what that was like, but I do remember the sweaty curling iron sessions, forehead burns and the desire to flee like my hair was on fire.
I can't style short hair daily. Even if I didn't dislike it intensely around my face..... I just can't DO all that grooming.
Phyl: My niece has very long very thick hair and she twists it into a top knot a lot of the time, just like the rest of us. If you pull it up and twist in one direction till it's just a bun.... you can tuck the ends underneath and clip it with little clips or use a hair tie at the base to keep it in place. Usually it lasts longer than I can stand all the weight hanging on the same hairs...... I just take it down, brush it and put it back up in a couple seconds again.
If you center it on your head, the weight sits on top instead of hanging heavily off your head..... it's not beautiful, but it's not bad looking either.
Amber: I guess you pull your hair back most of the time, or.... you have to style it every day?
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Lord no! I'd go stark raving mad if I styled my hair every day. Wash it, comb & part, let it air dry - just running my fingers through it. When dry - run a brush through it. Most I ever do, to "style" is blow dry it. Done.
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