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lighter:
I wonder what's there, behind the feelings you have around hurting your T, Hops.
Is it nose on the pebble concern ....
or....
can you get enough distance on it to see what's behind it?
Lighter
Hopalong:
Pretty simple.
I hate seeing any pain of rejection on any face that I could prevent.
I also know professional Ts understand and expect clients to "graduate" if it's appropriate for them. She'd be okay, it's just tough to do. Almost, not-quite there.
It'll be okay. I wrote the Sikh about a one-off talk and I'll be very open with him, to see if that conversation inspires a decision.
hugs
Hops
Hopalong:
Had a long talk with my wise friend, 80y/o, "P". She understood all of it and spotted that my interest in and fear of seeing the Sikh is classic "approach avoidance" and that made a lot of sense. She suggested one way to talk to him for a session is to first ask about where he'd see us going, and also whether he thinks because of my fears, recommending a third option (such as perhaps another woman counselor) would be good.
In talking to P, it really did seem more clear to me that despite the other fear (of change and losing present-T's support) it's probably the right thing to change Ts at this point. P also pointed out that I could ask present-T for a hiatus with the option to return to her.
Huh. Hadn't thought of that, but it might reduce my fears over leaving the comforting-but-frustrating familiarity of talking to her once a week.
Sikh is going to send me suggested times for a week or two from now. He's busy!
hugs
Hops
lighter:
Ya, maybe takeing a "break" from therapy would feel less upsetting.
Good point: )
Lighter
Hopalong:
Oh, you mean telling her that, rather than mentioning the Sikh?
Hmmm, hadn't thought of that. Feels dishonest but maybe it'd be fine.
I'll wait and see how it goes with him.
Thanks for the idea. (I'm not thinking of taking a break from therapy, just maybe from the present T. Dunno if I was confusing.)
hugs
Hops
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