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2022 Frozen Tundra Farm Report
lighter:
Sometimes it feels like people, myself included, resist taking responsibility for choices and self care as others are carrying some of that responsibility, IME.
Responding with the question....
"what are you going to do about that?" is a complete response, IME.
As much as I want to trouble shoot and help serch for solutions.......
I KNOW the best thing I can do with my girls is be present, really HEAR them and trust them to resolve their own issues. I still find it difficult to repeat their words back to them, verbatum. I just do and my head snaps up when my T does it to me. Just not natural, but I realize it serves a purpose.
If I don't believe my girls are grown, capable young women...... why should they?
Please note..... I'm talking to myself here as much as you, Amber or anyone else. I try on "keeping my yap shut" and it's powerful. It's something I'm working on.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Yeah, I do this more & more lighter. She IS working thru it on her own, too. It helps that right now she's away during the week working. Home just on weekends. But there is a noticeable shift about her lately.
MOUSE:
Keep writing your thread! I can see/hear something very important going on in it. To you, of course. I wanted to offer you some encouragement, let you know I believe you are in the process of breaking through what's kept you stuck all this time. That's all; carry on!
Well, we're being kinda lazy this morning. B has been moving some of the tools that have been stored in the barn, into the shop - it's 100% his domain - and I'll move my seed-starting operation up the barn for next spring. I'm finally able to get the last of the plants planted or in the ground now. B is gonna help me dig taters and put the garden to bed for this winter. We have some finishing bobcat work to do around the garage doors of the shop too. I need to plant garlic.
The Siberian tomatoes are about cherry tomato size; dark red - almost purple - and VERY good! My echineacea bloomed for the first time this year; valerian as well - and I have some strange orange flower on a plant I thought was Baikal Skullcap... but looks more like calendula. It's an odd bloom for that tho. I'm going to have to find homes for the 5 pots of aloe B brought soon, and get the hibiscus and bluebells planted.
Then we have a good sized washtub to find a home for.
There is STILL a big pile of wood to split down at the studio but the main thing now is to get his move finished, house sold, and make that break. We started pricing Uhaul trucks and <choke!> I can't believe how much they want to rent them. But then, I haven't rented a car in years... so maybe that was a gradual increase.
Speaking of budgets... I hope everyone's doing OK with food, fuel & utilities so far. This is a good time of year to buy some bulk items, and preserve (can, dehydrate, freeze, etc) them for times of bad weather, or just BEING under the weather. I need to add a couple whole chickens to the freezer... pull out last Christmas's ham... and get busy freezing up small portions of soup. I'm certainly feeling the pinch around here at the grocery store! And I need to start gathering some baking supplies for winter.
Twoapenny:
I'm skipping through catching up on stuff Skep, I just wanted to say I was sorry to read of your mum passing - I know it's kind of odd if the relationship hasn't been conventional! I'm glad Buck's medical stuff seems to be moving in the right direction xx
sKePTiKal:
Thanks Tupp!
I haven't had much sadness about my mom. But that also seems to be OK. Only thing that's come up for me, is that I'm the next one "in line". And I'm not fussing much over that either since my druthers & plans have been settled for a few years now. (And unless I get hit by the Sweet Meteor of Death, I'm not in danger of passing any time soon.)
How are you doin? (I'll go check your thread.)
Twoapenny:
I know what you mean Skep, parents passing is a step nearer the inevitable and I think there are some parts of the circle of life that none of us are in a rush to get to! We are doing good, thank you, things are much better than they were before and everything is looking more manageable :) xx
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