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'23 - The Adventure Continues ;)
lighter:
That is SO powerful, Hops! Thank you for briging that to the board. Thank you.
Amber... I have no words for dealing with A.
Just a few reminders for dealing with you....
try not to judge anything.
Cultivate curiosity and spaciousness, as you can.
If A is reactive, loud, abusive or rude.... you can withdraw with love.
We're here.
Light
sKePTiKal:
LOL - withdraw is going to happen before there's even a chance of engaging with her. It's absolutely the bestest thing for me. Hol has the same response; this is one thing that totally connects Hol & I. We've been the dynamic duo for 25+ years trying to run damage control for Amy's boys and keep A from self-destructing completely.
I have no shred of guilt or obligation left in me over this. I'm closer to some of Hol's friends than I am A. Yeah, I get freaked out - the fight/flight thing, I know. But I am blessed with the ability to wall that off, turn off the light and lock the door and distract myself endlessly with other things.
Studio work is progressing again; deficiencies corrected. The south side will be getting siding soon, so they can build the new steps. Back deck structure is up and will get deck boards today, so the french doors (west side takes the brunt of wind & weather) can be replaced with awning windows. I'm really liking the look of the porch roof on the front over the garage doors; before it was just a two-story rectangular box. The roof adds some character. Siding is going to be a reddish brown almost cedar color with black trim. So I guess I'm getting a "big red barn" after all! :D
Just getting this much done, to insure the building is structurally sound and weather tite, is necessary before I start reworking the garage space and studio interior. Studio's functional but not... that cozy. And we DO hang out there a lot in "neutral territory" (Switzerland?) between my house & the Hol Hut. And before all that happens, I need a transfer switch to be able run the building from a generator when the power's out. My house is fully covered; Hol's is totally off-grid. B has generators for his shop stuff.
While I'm waiting for the no-see-um season to go way, I think I'll start working on my "pantry"/still room in half the double garage under the house.
lighter:
You certainly do keep busy with distractions, Amber.
Good luck with the construction progress.
As for the no-see-ums....
::scratching 2 new bites and noticing old itchy spots popping back up again::.
Ever since my BIL's brother died of cancer, after consistently taking antihistamines...... I try not to reach for antihistamines. That makes it harder to go back into the yard... esp the poison ivy area I need to weed.
Have a good weekend, ladies.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Yikes! Never heard that one:
https://www.google.com/search?q=do+antihistamines+increase+cancer+risk&oq=do+antihistamines+increase+cancer+risk&aqs=chrome..69i57j33i160l4j33i22i29i30.5813j0j15&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8#ip=1
hugs
Hops
lighter:
I haven't done any research.....just heard the brother did his own research on it and that was his conclusion. Very bright man. Not sayinghe was right.
Also of interest....he dx'd his pancreatic cancer months before the Canadian medical system did then died in a furious knot over it.
It feels like a burning coal to think about it, so I'm just going to back away from taking oodles of antihistamines, just in case.
Lighter
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