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lighter:
A friend's divorcing niece had her husband removed from their home after GAL asked to have their 4yo evaluated for SA.

There was no physical evidence, but the child reported something to motivate the GAL to have police remove dad.

I'm wondering why this same charge isn't amused more with PDs manipulating children and turning them against the non PD parent.

Predatory grooming happens with regard to financial, sexual and is characterized as follows :

"The perpetrator's malicious intent and gradual escalation towards exploitative and harmful behavior."

For all I know, this removal is about the father attempting to alienate his DD from the divorcing mother.  I really hope that's what it is.

Lighter

Hopalong:
This is dense of me, but is "GAL" an acronym here or just "gal" like the opposite of "fella"?

Oh so many bells ring at this, and with my Nmom's damage, I know how it can spiral down generations. What bothers me so deeply about abusers/groomers is perceiving a mind that simply feels entitled to TAKE. As though a child or victim is a bonbon.

Maddening, saddening.

hugs
Hops

lighter:
Hops, GAL is Guardian Ad Litem....an attorney in place to represent the minor child's interests in Court.

I'm simply accepting generational PD damage today.  That's a switch, bc it's normally something my Nervous System refuses to accept......at all.

That so many people, esp Court officers, assume the best.....boggles my mind.  Maybe it's better than assuming the worst?  Hard to say.

I think..... remaining curious,
to see what's really there,
is the better way of being in the world. Zero assumptions better. 

Mitigating harm.....as a normal way of being, means we accept harm is an ongoing reality.

Lately, a Qanon friend, of 40 years, is sending terrible stories about brutal crimes committed by undocumented and minority people.....drawings of terrible, secret, society crimes against children.....drawing connections to D politicians and famous folks, while ignoring anything to do with anything else, if you get my meaning.

It takes my breath away ...how willfully ignorant he's been.....continues to be about trafficking, child abuse and DV.  Wearing blinders, but for everything popping up on his news feed, validating his Qanon world view.

It's terrible for my Nervous System.  I imagine him driven into a constant state of fight or flight, ignoring the suffering around him while focusing on blood drinking, child skin wearing elites, ruling the world.

Well....that was a rant.

Two ongoing legal cases, in my world, have me looking over my shoulder, at past lessons..... it's distracting, but I'm back pulling legal documents, in my head, figuring out shortcuts, etc.

Mitigating harm.... that's the ticket.

Lighter

Hopalong:
Friends can't be actual friends, when they're lost down conspiracy rabbit holes.
Blunt questions (forgive please): Why do you not distance yourself? Do you feel an obligation to stay in the orbit of toxic or misogynistic or dishonest people?

Where does the feeling of must-be-connected with them (relatives or not) come from? You CAN survive without such impressions. Proving yourself immune fails because *nobody* is immune to toxicity. The exposures wear down your peace, imo.

hugs
Hops

lighter:
I asked this friend to explain his views, (so I could better understand where my normally sane, rational, tolerant longtime friend went.)

Everything he sends is from the Q, and Q adjacent sites.  Recently there's been a very dark turn.

Our 40 year friendship's been reduced to forwarding information back and forth, at this point.

Years ago, he referred us to the nutritional healthcare gal.  Really helpful.  He's a R who's open to nutritional and holistic healthcare..... that's who he used to be, all the time.  Open.

Before that, he introduced me to the term Narcissism, which brought me to this forum.

If I needed a kidney, he'd give me one, and through his Q delirium, which seems to be a fear driven state.....he remains gentle and hopeful I can, eventually, understand the terrifying world view he's entranced with.

Not a mysoginist, but there are Q narratives tickling parts of the man's brain, more about cabals and child predation.....selling baby parts, and vaccines creating turbo cancers.

He hopes I see the light.
I hope the same for him.
Under it the beliefs, we'll always be there for each other. 

Lighter

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