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zcollin

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N daughter
« on: December 26, 2004, 01:58:48 PM »
Does anyone have any advice for a parent with an N daughter?

Anonymous

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N daughter
« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2004, 10:31:37 PM »
How old is your daughter and what's she doing?

bunny

zcollin

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N daughter
« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2004, 08:44:50 AM »
She is 28 and i am merely a friend of the family.  No one is yet sure of root of her difficulties, but apparently it has been almost life long.  She sees a psychiatrist 2x a year for med monitoring and has once again started counseling 2x/mo.  Facts as i know them...attended college normal time but did not graduate until this past Spring with honors.  Came home in August has yet to actively seek employment.  Has no means if support.  Here are a few observations.....very concerned about health and appearance (vegitarian who works out alot) loves clothes, is attractive an loves to have her picture taken.  Has no friends (male or female at home one male friend in CA) is prone to temper tantrums when she doesn't get her way in public or private, has little sense of appropriate behavior ie will yell at her mother in front of her mother's peers.  She is quite artistic but has no apparent hobbies.  Stays around the house causing conflict among all members younger brother, father, mother...verbally abusive to all.  Father finds something else to do, brother leaves to live somewhere else (even when home for a visit) mother curls up in a ball and stays home to "protect" her.

Family wants to help...not sure what to do.

any ideas?

Anonymous

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« Reply #3 on: December 28, 2004, 10:49:00 AM »
The family (as many of them as possible) could go into therapy together. The parents need help. The brother needs help. The N daughter is manifesting the family system problems. The entire group needs to get the system working better.

That's my feedback for what it's worth.

bunny

zcollin

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Ndaughter
« Reply #4 on: December 30, 2004, 09:03:36 PM »
Thanks for suggestions. it has been a nightmare over the holidays, brother won't stay home 'cause Mom won't stand up for him when sister attacks.  Father runs away and tells Mom she needs to take charge, daughter tells Mom she can't have friend over for New Year's eve (dad and brother are away on trip) Mom is afraid to push issue so cancels plans for fear daughter will be rude and hateful.  Everyone is indenial and under seige of the abusive temper tantrums.  it is sad.