how was christmas?

[write]

Thanks all who bolstered my confidence when I felt low earlier this week.
The emotional-n-roller-coaster sure takes it out of you sometimes...

How was everyone's christmas?

Ours was surprisingly fun and peaceful, felt like a normal family.

There were a few n-moments, but we are getting better ( on good days ) at recognising them: even n-h occasionally ( not enough for me to consider returning to the marriage, but enough for me to hope he will continue therapy and at least try to change )

Here's to 2005. Onward and upward...!

[bludie]

Thanks for inquiring about Christmas, write. Glad to hear yours was normal. Mine was N-less -- quiet, a bit solitary, but much better than the chaos of Christmases past . Yesterday a year ago I remember a grim, silence-filled ride to Denver to visit my family after visiting my ex-Ns. I was ready to bolt, hop a plane and head home because things had gotten so strained and weird. Of course, the row had been all my fault due to not being a mind-reader! Not so this Christmas. Thank goodness those days are over. Peace to all posters in the coming New Year!

[LookingUp]

My Christmas was going very well until my N-mom showed up at my sister's place (where our family was spending the day). She was absolutely miserable to be around and snapped at me when I gave her our gift.  

[Anonymous]

Of course, the row had been all my fault

Same here.  Last year my mother did everything she could to start an argument with me and I refused to participate.  I have to admit, it was exhausting not to take the bait and I had to stay on my toes and be very vigilant.  Finally, the rest of the family moved to another room and left her alone.  After a few minutes she screamed from the other room that my very old, very gentle cat had bitten her.  I said "Really?  I've never known him to bite anyone."  And of course she screamed "Well, I have the bitemarks to prove it!" So I asked to see them and she jumped up, put her coat and gloves on and left.  

Things were much quieter and peaceful here this year!  

Eloise

[Anonymous]

After a few minutes she screamed from the other room that my very old, very gentle cat had bitten her. I said "Really? I've never known him to bite anyone." And of course she screamed "Well, I have the bitemarks to prove it!" So I asked to see them and she jumped up, put her coat and gloves on and left.

Hee hee hee. i know what happened was very annoying but it is very funny in one way too. they are just like little kids-arent' they!!! incredible how an adult body can contain such a childish mind. what a phenomenon is NPD.