It's funny you mention that he will attack me in court.
He has just done so two weeks ago. He alleges that I am physically abusive to the children, that I am mentally ill, and that I am a substance abuser (also that my Mom and my SIL are substance abusers as well).
All false. My attorney said I can't sue for slander b/c it was said in a sealed court document (protective order). In all likeliness the judge will see through it b/c he was supposed to be talking about why it would be good for the kids to stay overnight with him one school night weekly. Well, he spoke about everything but that topic. He also was tripped up in his own lies. I'm sure the judge will be p*ssed when she reads half the stuff b/c she has already ruled against him for two other motions regarding child support and the children.
It's a shame b/c he is his own worst enemey. His former attorney quit b/c during negotiations (4 years ago) she came into the room I was with my attorney and told us that there was "no dealing with him". He wouldn't even listen to his own lawyer. I can remember as if it were yesterday...the sheer frustration on the lawyer's face when she muttered, "He is his own worst enemey." At that point in time I just regarded him as a very selfish paranoid and unreasonable person to deal with, not realizing he was N.
To this day, he sends emails and certified letters to me, making threats, bragging about his fake achievements, trying to pressure me into doing his bidding..such as errands, making phones calls, making copies of things. Bascially, treating me like a secretary who is to do all his mundane things. Of course I never do which only infuriates him more.
There are sooooooooo many insane things he does that thus far I have always "won" in court (knock on wood) b/c he always gets tripped up in his own lies. It can be scary b/c he is always so very confident and appears to believe himself. I am hoping that the judge will rule in my favor this time as well. I will know in the next two weeks.
I feel so worn down and I cringe every time I see email from him or a letter in the mail. I know he wants me to fear him and gets enjoyment from it and I am much better now at not letting him know that he gets to me. My husband and I try to laugh it off b/c some of the stuff is so off the wall. I'm sure i would laugh more if I didn't have children involved. I worry day and night about them because of him.
Thanks for the responses and advice.