odd to miss your family when they only cause you grief?

[lulling]

i was just wondering if it was odd to feel like you miss your family and really want to talk with them....even though they are treating you so poorly.  i am not currently talking with n. mom, and because of that my usually loving father is not talking to me either.  really it is my dad that i miss talking to the most ( i think i will give him a little time and then try to contact him?)  
i thought that i would feel wonderful and free once i severed ties...but i just feel sad

[Wispery]

It takes time...time away....to eventually realise how much better off you might just be......

Give it time.....not weeks, not months, possibly years. That gives your brain time to rest and sort it all out....distance and time.

[serena]

I don't know the dynamics of your family but is there a way to communicate with your father privately, without your mother knowing?

You don't have to be confrontational with him - just explain that you don't need to be around her but that you still love him?

Even if you do this through a third party - it will be important to him?

[longtire]

lulling,
I am about to divorce my wife and I already miss her.  (For me the anticipation of these things is often worse that the reality.)  I will miss her depsite the fact that living with her has been a neverending nightmare for me.

At least there was someone else there with me, even if they are abusive.  At least I wasn't alone and didn't have to be aware of and deal with my fears and loneliness.  I don't want to live that way anymore.  I'm willing to feel and accept my loneliness to do it.  I'll let you know how I do that when I figure it out.  

[Samantha!]

I am having that since years. But my father is such a whishy wimp that he tells everything my Nmom what I tell him. I realized that it is impossible to have a honest relation with him as long as my Nmom is around. That is just the way it is. And he is developing Ntraits after living that long together with her.

It is a letting go. His decsion. He never divorced her, never admitted what kind of b*tch she is and so on. He denies all. Awful. Now, I have to go my very own way. That is just the way it is.

Samantha