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October

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Some good news
« on: March 10, 2005, 08:38:32 AM »
A small victory, but nonetheless...

I had a letter from my MP today.  He has been sent confirmation by the LEA that my daughter will continue to receive home tuition for the foreseeable future, on medical advice.  This is a great relief, as this was due to end at Easter.

I have been treated as guilty until proven innocent.  Now I am shown to be innocent, but where is the support?  Nothing from the school now for about 6 weeks.  

Also, left wondering why nobody has bothered to tell me.  Neither the school, the LEA, the Education Welfare people.

Am I invisible once more?   :?

However, good news.  Hold onto that.  With both hands.   :D

Anonymous

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« Reply #1 on: March 10, 2005, 08:49:53 AM »
Great news October.  I am happy for you.  Maybe it is a bureacratic issue as to why the school did not call?  Patz

Portia

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« Reply #2 on: March 10, 2005, 09:58:15 AM »
Good news October :D  Is it conspiracy or incompetence? It’s usually their incompetence. It’s not ‘not bothering’, it’s not that personal (they aren’t acting against you) – they’re probably about 10 months behind on their paperwork and heck, bureaucracy wouldn’t allow them to pick up the phone to you – I bet it has to be a letter, triple-checked by three people and then sent to someone else to photocopy (3 week wait) and then sent 2nd class, probably with the wrong address on it….

Phone them up! Have you got any named people to badger? “Why do I have to hear this excellent news from my MP instead of you? Are you under-staffed? Shall I mention it to my MP? When will I hear from you? No, I want an exact date, not ‘in a couple of weeks’, I have a calendar here, now can you write to me by 24th March? No? How about 31st? I’ll note it down. Thank you so much for your help….”

Unfortunately we do need to be assertive to be heard, otherwise we’re not exactly ignored or invisible so much as ‘sunk to the bottom of the in-box’! Note: I can hardly ever be that assertive, unless for someone else.

Anonymous

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« Reply #3 on: March 10, 2005, 10:03:55 AM »
That's great October!

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..good news. Hold onto that. With both hands.


I love this!!!  Such a nice picture!! :D

Here's hoping more and more of it will come to you and give you an arm load!!

GFN

mum

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« Reply #4 on: March 10, 2005, 10:06:16 AM »
October: congratulations....we all benefit from hearing your good news...sometimes the good guy wins. I'm betting on those odds myself....
and I agree with the others...don't get paranoid, there are very few people who actually handle something themselves nowadays, leading to passing the buck and responsibility along with it.....things and people's lives, unfortunately get affected.

And Portia: perhaps a new bartering business: "Assertive friends!  We will assert ourselves on your behalf, and you do it for us."  Oh, wait, that is what friends do....but not really outloud.  (Ok, business plan has some kinks in it.)

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« Reply #5 on: March 10, 2005, 10:14:09 AM »
Congratulations October! Glad that you and your daughter had such good news! I'm not up to date with the story here but does she have the same problem as you? Or trouble at school? Never mind, just glad to hear you're having a good day! :P
Rip it to shreds and let it go - Garbage

Anonymous

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« Reply #6 on: March 10, 2005, 10:17:03 AM »
Glad to hear about this bright spot in your life for both you and your daughter.  

mia

October

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« Reply #7 on: March 11, 2005, 08:42:16 AM »
I agree with you all that this is not personal, it is incompetence.  However, I am not about to rescue anyone from their incompetence by picking up any phones.  If this were a game of chess it would be silly for me to show them what move to make.  All I have to do is make sure that any moves I make are demonstrably to the benefit of my daughter and her education.  I would prefer if this were not confrontational, but so far there is no evidence of a willingness to cooperate and work together, so chess it is.  Their choice, not mine.

So I have written a sweet little letter back to the MP, thanking him for his letter, and telling him how pleased I am.  And incidentally saying that I had not been informed of this news by the LEA, and commenting that I have heard nothing from them or the school for several weeks, and that I am feeling abandoned and that they have washed their hands of us.

<Lights blue touchpaper and retires>

 :lol:

October

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« Reply #8 on: March 11, 2005, 08:47:04 AM »
Quote from: sleepyhead
I'm not up to date with the story here but does she have the same problem as you?


C inherited coeliac disease from her dad, which was diagnosed last year.  She started a gluten free diet in October, but we have been told that the pain she has may last up to a year.  She has been in pain for several years, and now says she cannot remember what it is like not to have bad tummy pain.  Painkillers do nothing to touch it.

Anxiety makes it worse - after her dad visited last week she was very unwell indeed - more pain than usual, and other symptoms of tummy upset.

Lots of history with school of gradually reducing attendance, and increasing illnesses, because coeliac disease affects the immune response too, and so sufferers tend to fall ill very easily, and stay ill longer, than other people.  First thing to go was Brownies, then swimming lessons, then music school, then school altogether, and now she has a home tutor three mornings a week, who does nothing but maths.  Her maths will be fine, but not so sure about the rest ...  But she is bright, and she will catch up, I am sure.

As soon as she is better I have promised to get her dancing lessons, but so far she is not well enough.

Portia

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« Reply #9 on: March 11, 2005, 09:09:31 AM »
So sorry about C October, hoping the diet and so on will work, now I understand why that ******'s visit made her ill and I'm angry with him again. But she sounds pretty clued up too and if she's like her mum, she'll catch up in no time.

That letter was a classy move. Yeah! I'm just too upfront, I admire your strategy. 8)

October

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« Reply #10 on: March 11, 2005, 09:19:03 AM »
Quote from: Portia


Yeah! I'm just too upfront, I admire your strategy. 8)



Your suggestions were not wrong at all, Portia.  I just got fed up being the one who made all the effort to communicate, that's all.  Your suggestions would be the right ones if I wanted to achieve anything quickly, but at present I don't.  Cs tummy ache is not going to go away quickly, so I can take my time.

xxxxxxx