NHusband and NDaughter - HELP

[Ruth403]

 Both my Husband and Daughter (by a previous marriage) are Narcissistic.  Let me get this out of the way firstly - if I had the money I would be long gone from this marriage and secondly, as hard as it is to deal with my daughter she has been diagnosed with MS, and has two children I will not desert.
I just want to know how to deal with both of them - I am at my wits end.
They both constantly blame me, lie to me, argue with me - true enough, I sometimes argue back.  Neither my Husband or Daughter speak to each other, but constantly critisize the other to me.  
Please - advice

[Chutzbagirl - reply]

Hi Ruth403,

First let me say I am truly sorry for the N's you are having to deal with.  Dealing with them is nothing less than insanity.  I admire your compassion for your daughter.  I'm grateful my Grandmother stayed connected to me.  She is one of the reasons for my sanity now.

I have been greatly helped in navigating the world of N's through the 12 steps, I go to Al Anon, and therapy.  The N neighborhood is dangerous and I will not travel there alone.  I still have a long way to go before I'm done with therapy, but I have gotten a lot better.   I do not take insane rides with N's anylonger.  

My heart goes out to you.  I encourage you to take care of yourself first.  You are worth it.  What can you do for yourself today?  Even a small offering of love to oneself can make a difference in a day.

[mudpuppy]

Hi Ruth403,
Welcome to this board. You'll get a lot more response and help on the message board above this one. This one is pretty inactive.
Good luck.

mudpup

[Anonymous]

Both of those posts are helpful. Hope to see you on the big board.