Dreams anyone?

[Anonymous]

((((October))))

Sorry to hear that both you and your daughter are going through such a difficult time right now.  

Glad to see you back.

Mia

[Anonymous]

How's about listening to one of my dreams?  This was from last night.

I dreamt I was in the city (born there, moved when I was 6 to suburbs).  I found myself as an adult walking through narrow courtyards that interconnected numerous row homes.  As I was walking through these courtyards and alleyways I noticed that the majority of homes still had their Christmas decorations in place.  During the dream I kept looking on the ground at dozens of extension cords strewn all over the place.  I was wondering why none of the folks had taken down their decorations.

Next thing I know I am now in some sort of waiting room.  It reminded me of a doctor's waiting room.  My best pal from HS (I see her regularly) was their with her son (5).  Turns out we were waiting for the start of her son's birthday party.  It was going to be a thirty minute wait.  At this point I told my friend that my kids would need to use the potty since it was such a long ride to this place.  She informed me there wasn't a bathroom.  My thoughts: My kids are going to wet their pants...they can't wait thirty minutes for a party to begin and then wait through the party until I can find a place with a bathroom.  

Suddenly, I realize we didn't think to bring a gift.  I was mortified.  Where can I get a gift?  There weren't any stores around.  The dream ended.

I find the part about the bathroom amusing since I am so neurotic about public restrooms.  I avoid them like the plaque and prefer that my kids don't use them.

Any and all feedback is welcome.

Thanks
Mia

[Anonymous]

HI all:

October:
Sorry things are so hard right now.  It will be tough for a bit.  Tha's a long way to travel....drive carefully, if you're driving.  Imagine a big, stone wall around you and your daughter.  Very strong, very safe, very solid.  Don't let the crap in.

Safe journey.   (((((((October and Daughter)))))))
Glad you're ok!


P:  

Good trip to the library GFN, I bet you’ve read Atwood inside out?

Glad it was good and nope, can't say I've read much of her.  Probably should.   I tend to go for history or historical novels and stuff.  It takes me forever to read a book because I don't spend much time (1/2 hour or less per day).  Naughty me eh?     The day's just not long enough.  I like to hear what time it is there where you are.  

6.25 pm Brit's summer time and yes, it's sunny  

 The post time I see is 1:25 pm, which is waaaaaaay off.  Glad it's sunny there.  It is here too!


Hi Mia:  Interesting dream.  Thanks for sharing.  Wonder what it all means?  I'm waiting to see what others think.

Anna:  Nightmares are nasty and scary and often very upsetting.  Share as you feel comfy.  Maybe put some kind of big warning (large coloured print or something) at the beginning, if it will be graphic (and people can decide to read or skip over--as they see fit).

Last night I had a dumb dream not worth even describing.  Sometimes I think those kind of dreams are just our brains excercising a bit.  Brain aerobics?  Well...not really because it wasn't strenuous.  Maybe....pilates?  Stretching a little.   I don't know.  Weird.

GFN

[Anonymous]

October,

Mudpup already knows this as we are such good friends ((((Muddy)))),

Thanks for the hugs, gurlfrannddd.    

I've got one hand on my hip and I'm snapping my other fingers while wagging my head side to side while I say that.    

I think that's how you gals do it. Someone Let me know if I'm leaving anything out.

(((((October and D)))))

mudpup

[October]

dagnabbit.

((((((((((October))))))))))

What a superb word!!!!!!  I am going to use that as a swear word to myself whenever my dad starts going off on one.  

  Dagnabbit!!!!!!!     <Imagines boulder falling from sky and squashing dad flat, as in Road Runner cartoons>

[October]

Last night I had a dumb dream not worth even describing.  Sometimes I think those kind of dreams are just our brains excercising a bit.  Brain aerobics?  Well...not really because it wasn't strenuous.  Maybe....pilates?  Stretching a little.   I don't know.  Weird.

GFN

Erm, dare I just point out that this is rather dismissive of something that part of you is trying to tell another part of you?  If it was really that unimportant, why did you even mention it?  Because there is dissonance somewhere, perhaps?

I might be wrong, because nobody is perfect (Ns excepted), but if your Hollywood producer brain went to all that trouble to create metaphor, imagery, script, lights, cameras and action, and you say it is not even worth describing, they may well go away and cry.  

I am not familiar with the 'dreams as brain aerobics' theory, mind you.  Perhaps this is a new school of thought.

 

[October]

 I was wondering why none of the folks had taken down their decorations.

At this point I told my friend that my kids would need to use the potty since it was such a long ride to this place.  She informed me there wasn't a bathroom.  My thoughts: My kids are going to wet their pants...they can't wait thirty minutes for a party to begin and then wait through the party until I can find a place with a bathroom.  

Suddenly, I realize we didn't think to bring a gift.  I was mortified.  Where can I get a gift?  There weren't any stores around.  The dream ended.

Mia

Hiya Mia

The first part seems to indicate that you wonder why all the rules are being broken.  At the same time, you are alone, and in an environment which is not overtly hostile, but also not welcoming or friendly.  There are lights, but they are not where you are; you are outside looking in.  And they are breaking the rules.

While you are wondering this, you seem not to enjoy the sight of the bright lights, but worry instead about the wires and the electricity, and the fact that everyone else is wrong and you are right.  You may well be right, but you can still enjoy the lights.  Or perhaps it is Divali, or Eid, or some other festival.  There is an element of judgment of others, though, which prevents you relaxing and enjoying yourself.

This theme continues in the next part, where you are waiting for a party.  The waiting and looking forward is turned into anxiety instead, which prevents you from having fun, and relaxing.  

Some part of you tries to stop you having a good time.  In the first place by worrying about the rules and the electric cables.  In the second place by worrying about a loo, and then a present.  

The anxiety turns into inadequacy, because you have no gift.  I have given loads of parties where people turn up with no gift; you don't send them away, you say, don't worry about it, glad you could come.  But your interpretation seems to say, if you are inadequate you/your children are not welcome, or not allowed, at the party.

These seem to be the underlying themes.  But they may be wrong.

[October]

Thank you.....

You are welcome.      
 
Forgot to say that Our Lord is in exactly the right place in your dream, officiating as the Great High Priest.  You would be right, imo, to regard this as a great gift, perhaps even as a mystical vision. Why not?

[Portia]

October, very happy to see you and so sorry to hear about your ex. I wish you good luck for the drive and hope the visit isn’t too traumatic for both of you. Very sad and tough times for you and C. Thinking of you.

[Anonymous]

Hey October

Thanks for the feedback.

I think you have my number.  I have my moments of being uptight and anxious.

Just wanted to clarify that in the dream the Christmas lights weren't lit up.  The decorations looked to be weathered.  The cords were laying on the ground but weren't hooked into the outlets.

This is probably completely unrelated but my son wet his bed last night (not common for him).  Probably just a coincidence, right?

Mia

[Anonymous]

Hello:

Erm, dare I just point out that this is rather dismissive of something that part of you is trying to tell another part of you?

You're right, October.  Thanks for pointing that out.

If it was really that unimportant, why did you even mention it? Because there is dissonance somewhere, perhaps?

What happened was I had a partially bad day and then relived that part of the day again in my dream.  It seemed a waste of good dream time to do that.  I guess I mentioned it because I saw it as a positive thing that I am at least remembering some of my dreams.  It would have been good to point that out.

I might be wrong, because nobody is perfect (Ns excepted), but if your Hollywood producer brain went to all that trouble to create metaphor, imagery, script, lights, cameras and action, and you say it is not even worth describing, they may well go away and cry.

Yes.  I see what you mean.  I must be excited about actually remembering my dreaming and expecting some bizzare, fantastic dreams to come along and give me something interesting to post about/ponder/gain insight from.  The N in me, I guess, wanting important dreams.    And the past replaying again....beating myself up for not having wonderful enough ones.  

I am not familiar with the 'dreams as brain aerobics' theory, mind you. Perhaps this is a new school of thought.

It just seemed like my brain was excercising itself.  Excercise is good for every other part of the body, so you're right again, why would I discount that?

Thanks, October.

GFN

[Stormchild Guesting]

Dagnabbit!!!!!!!     <Imagines boulder falling from sky and squashing dad flat, as in Road Runner cartoons>

Ya know, I think I got it from Yosemite Sam cartoons...

whenever 'dagnabbit' isn't enough you can also try this Yosemite Sam classic:

"Rassa frassa rackafracka!" mumbled under your breath.

     

[d's mom]

I might be wrong, because nobody is perfect (Ns excepted), but if your Hollywood producer brain went to all that trouble to create metaphor, imagery, script, lights, cameras and action, and you say it is not even worth describing, they may well go away and cry.

Yes.  I see what you mean.  I must be excited about actually remembering my dreaming and expecting some bizzare, fantastic dreams to come along and give me something interesting to post about/ponder/gain insight from.  The N in me, I guess, wanting important dreams.    And the past replaying again....beating myself up for not having wonderful enough ones.  

It just seemed like my brain was excercising itself.  Excercise is good for every other part of the body, so you're right again, why would I discount that?

hey.... its not n'ish to want to have groovy dreams!!!!! they are fun.  and yes part of what dreams do is 'work out' the kinks of stuff that happened in life. sometimes its earthshaking and sometims its banal, just like life... theres often a lot more there than peopel give themselves credit for, and our internal directors spend a lot of time crying i think....sometimes also.. a 'cigar is just a cigar'

dreaming is like artistic talent or being good at math or playing guitar or being good at sports. its just another thing in life that some people have aptitude for, that some peopel develop aptitude for, and some people never give a second thought. i will go to my grave without ever developing a talent for skydiving and you know what - i will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER  miss it.

nothing wrong with any of that. if a person wanst to exercise up their 'dream muscles' its very possible and just something else fun in life to do, and some find extremely useful for learning about themselves inside. its kind of a form of yoga.

thats not n'ish to want to be better at something.

 

[Anonymous]

Thanks ((((((Anna))))))

     

GFN

[October]

This is probably completely unrelated but my son wet his bed last night (not common for him).  Probably just a coincidence, right?

Mia

My daughter used to do that when she was younger if she was going down with something - cough or cold or flu.  It was an early indicator, several times.  Just a thought.