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Anonymous:
hell ya!!!!!!!
Echo (I really am gonna change my on screen name...I have graduated).
Jaded911:
Woot Woot Echo we dun gradiated.
Glad to know we learned something out of this hell. We gradiated from the how to spot a N scool, wait, skuel, skoowl. however you spell it we gadiated.
Now lets remember the lessons we learn and practice what we preached we hated. You know: demeaning, dismissing, projecting,denial of own actions and words.......so on. We graduated and I dont need a dang degree to prove I learned. Proof is in our actions, not theirs.
hope2003:
By the way, Engel if you are reading this board. I want to thank you for your kind words.
My divorce is getting worse. My N is becoming more and more vicious. He wants us out of the house by Dec. 31, wants all of our cars, all of the furniture, and literally says that I can leave with my clothing, jewelry and personal items. I guess he has forgotten about the holidays or that we have two children that he is booting out.
We have a motion scheduled for next week. Hopefully, he won't be successful, and we will be successful asking the Judge to amend her findings.
that's the update.
Guest:
I'm mostly a lurker on N-Partners. I read the current posts and the archives too.
First, let me tell you that the Herm person is a ***SELF-
ADMITTED*** N. If you look in the archives of N-Partners, SHE HERSELF says she is an N who has had therapy. Whoever she is referring to as being an N or having N behavior, must be a projection by her.
Too bad the archives do not have a search feature. If you want to see that, just look at when that character name joined, and go through the posts. It's a big job yes, but what I am saying is there, and it was visible in her attitude several times.
She acted like a child in leaving without even any contact to Sandahl privately, to see what was wrong and trying to sort it out first. Seriously, think carefully about it for a moment. How childish is that? This kind of abrupt behavior without even any attempt at sorting it out peacefully is exactly what drove me mad with my xN. He was offended by something he **thought** I did and we went through all of this distancing and silent treatment crap before he told me what the problem was. It was so unneccessary when he could have just come to me with clarification right away. But N's do not do that, do they? Instead, they react **first** because they have no control over their emotions.
Proof that it was more in her mind and that a talk with Sand could have put it all to rest, is her saying that it should be obvious as to why she left. Most of the people didn't have a clue. It wasn't **obvious**, it was distorted by her thinking into something bigger, therefore she figured it was as big/obvious for others too.
She also got sucky and defensive other times when people disagreed with her. I don't even know why she was there dispensing "advice" that was not even solicited. Many seemed to appreciate it and fine, but I can't figure everyone appreciated her "I am the expert" style.
As far as Sandahl, her mistake in all of this was deleting the Hermione "goodbye" post. Had she not done that, none of this would have happened. There was nothing inflammatory in that thread and it could have been left indefinately. Eventually, people would have just said "oh well, who knows what happened, but if you are out there Herm, please come back". That's it.
I'm not sure if part of it was that she didn't want people to figure out that Hermione's leaving had something to do with her. I'm not saying it is that. It was just a passing thought.
I don't know what happened with Hope because I was out and she apparantly deleted the thread right away- so I never saw it.
There are some sad losses to that group as far as I'm concerned.
Anyway, the bottom line is that Hermione characters actions contributed to this whole thing, and then Sandahl wanting to delete the thread. It all went downhill from there.
Anonymous:
GAAAAWDDDD....."Youre an N!.." "NO, Youre an N!" "NO, YOURE an N!!"..."UHUUU, YOURE the N!!!"....You all sound like you need something to keep you busy.
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