acapella and the other n-partners

[Jaded911]

Guest Peach,

I think I mentioned something earlier about the lack of information out there about Nism on a more personal level.  I actually would be interested in knowing what they are thinking or not thinking when they treat people this way.  From what I gather it is just nature to them.  

I would love to know if anyone has TRULY been reformed or if it is just to embedded in their being to be worked through.  I haven't really found any information that satisfies my questions on a more personal level.  Does that make sense to you, LOL, I dont really know how else to word it.

Thank you for the information about Sam.  That in itself answered some of the lingering questions I had.

[GuestPeach]

Hi there Jaded,

As you say, it does seem to in their be nature, being that they have suffered a narcissistic wound at an early age, and this has laid the psychological path for their behaviors.  

 I do know what you are asking about more personal information, though.  Too bad we’d never get the real skinny from the average N, as they aren’t with reality enough to know what it is themselves.

Below is a link to a site you might find interesting.  There was always mixed opinions about it on the other board, some quite harsh, but I personally got some learning out of it.   Anyway, you could have a look and see what you personally think.

It is a site where self proclaimed recovering narcissists(in therapy) answer any questions others have about Nism.

You can read the Q & A archives or ask as many questions as you like to them, if you don’t see your question answered already.

http://frost.bbboy.net/healnpd-viewforum?forum=33

Best wishes...

[Jaded911]

TY Guest Peach for the www.  Yikes, I could not believe some of their responses to some posts.  Heck I would be scared to ask anything to one of the dudes.  

I just have to come to the realization that I will never get every question answered about it.  I think alot of times what bothers me is that my xN felt I did not have the right to have any type of closure.  It is not that I have a problem with a relationship ending, we have all had to deal with that.  My problem is the way it happened.  

The thought that they just move along to another makes me think they are happy with a warm body beside them no matter who it is.  They have no attachment to anything.  I wonder if they had a favorite toy when they were young?  Or is that out of their reach too?  They bond with nothing if I am understanding it.  They arent in touch with their emotions, so heck why would they be in touch with ours?  How could they?  

My closure will come but it sure won't be from him.  In time I will give up trying to figure it all out.  I dont think Sigmund Freud could have dealt with it better then we are.  Reading it and living it are two different things.

Ty for the site.  I did read many of the post, then just snuck out quietly before they sensed my presence.